Teen Sex in the Family Home
Should parents allow their teens to have sex in the home?
- Duration 6:19
- Date Jul 20, 2011
Should parents allow their teens to have sex in the home?
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Welcome back to foxnews.com lying -- I'm Jonathan Hunt.
If you have teenage kids you'll know that you're often vexed by the question -- of -- and when the they might explore all their sexuality.
While apparently some parents -- deciding it's safer to.
Know exactly encouragement at least allow that.
To have sex in the family home because it's a safer place I would joined now by any -- the nationally noon tween and teen expert award winning all -- Wallace's questions from -- -- that parents -- website.
Annie fox dot com I believe -- you'll -- there is they -- -- not on the website Matt.
That's correct -- -- and he's had a titanium with us this is this is a tricky subject for any parent I think.
On the -- what is what is the rationale behind the idea of -- teenage children have sex in the family home.
Well I think the rationale is that they'll be safer there may be daughter won't be falling off a -- she's sticking out of her rent it.
I guess that's I guess that not -- safer certainly missed.
But I mean one of what's really going through a parent's mind when they come from deciding this it's a difficult thing didn't think about Bernie Parent one would imagine.
-- the -- -- you know it's going on in their minds -- my guest says that they think that -- -- -- -- having more control over the situation because it's happening under their rift.
That is probably less -- and they believe the -- going because things will happen.
So you don't think it's a good idea.
You know they too many -- police out there are so I'm not gonna join the squad.
I think it's a really -- decision.
As -- as are all family values and I'm thinking that.
Parents need to look hard and -- at what their objectives are for parents the biological objective is to keep our children safe.
And the overall parenting objective is to raise them to a point where they can make.
Really healthy decisions on their own when you're not around.
So that they have learned to keep themselves safe I don't think -- be any discussion on that that's not controversial that's -- overall -- parents.
And so if parents think that.
Permitting children nominees or teenagers.
To to have sex on it under the roof of the family home.
Is keeping them safe or in any -- helping them make those decisions that -- -- later -- -- deal with on their own.
Is that helping.
That's a personal decision.
I don't think that it any of it works tell -- the chief Jonathan unless we're talking about sex in the context of relationships.
It's not the mechanics.
It has to do with sex.
And in a relationship and that's where we want to be teaching our kids to be thinking about it.
Now we we got some statistics from the national campaign to prevent teen pregnancy -- Apparently 56%.
Year olds are having sex either in the family stumbled upon his family's home.
Only 4% these days having sex and a cop truck or -- 3% in a hotel or motel.
And according to this -- which I'm kind of surprised that by the ninth.
By the nineteenth birthday.
Seven in ten teens of both sexes have had intercourse my question is be one of the other three doing.
I'm really surprise only seven intend on doing it might.
Age of nineteen.
-- is that hell is that generally what -- hearing from.
From your website.
Yes -- -- I am hearing these statistics.
What what's not revealed in -- statistics about the kids the 56% to having sex and failing hunt.
Is how aware are their parents or not about what's going on the doors close as they say.
I think that it's really important for parents on either side of this issue.
We just say no doesn't work.
It's not realistic as -- saved by their nineteenth birthday 70% of them will have had sexual intercourse at least for the first time.
And so we want them to be going into those situations with as much information.
Not just information about the biological risks unwanted pregnancy sexually transmitted diseases but also about the emotional risks.
To becoming sexually active especially for girls and for parents to be having these kinds of conversations it's not just one talk.
Capital T and not talk.
It is a whole series of conversations.
Where parents are listening as much as they are talking.
So that when your kids are in those situations where they are ultimately going to be making their own decision.
That -- your voice is inside their head.
So -- nanny didn't -- many parents will be sitting there thinking I need to have this conversation -- need to stop.
This sort of -- ongoing.
A conversation -- my kids.
How do you recommend they do excellent parents are terrified of that sort.
It's very upgrade and I think the best thing probably would be to acknowledge that it's our current.
It's awkward for us to be thinking about our teenagers as sexual beings in the same way that it's -- really awkward for them to be thinking about us.
As sexual beings we got to get past that because they're not doing our jobs effectively if we don't empower kids with information.
To find out where that what are their assumptions about -- about about intimate relationships.
It's also about respect for one's partner and that's part of the education process to I think ultimately what we want his parents.
In addition to what I mentioned before about having our kids.
Be equipped to make healthy decisions for themselves when -- not around so they can keep themselves safe.
-- for them to be a good judge of character and for them to be people of good character.
And that and includes.
Taking any other person's.
Feelings into consideration.
Mutual respect is at the base of every relationship.
And it starts with parents modeling that.
And hopefully your teenagers then take that into their boyfriend girlfriend relationship.