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I -- -- candidate we continue now with former South Carolina governor Mark Sanford right there what's your wife wrote this book.
And for example she knew about this relationship to having -- this woman for a long time for a couple months.
And issue -- -- and in an interview if there were any signs and one of the things she said before you're married you wanted to take out the word faithful.
That struck me as your pretty Christian guy.
Why would you wanna take -- the -- faithful.
You know there's certain things I'm just not gonna go into on this interview because I think to bring harm to either -- and her two boys and and that would be one of them.
Whatever it but -- -- -- little question let's just define it as a mistake and leave it -- well let me let me go back my question if you may -- to.
Have doubts in your heart about your ability Kazaa -- and I'm only -- it does not.
I'm I'm not trying to be salacious -- -- -- asking you because some navy deep down inside I wondered.
If you had doubts about your ability way back when.
That maybe you thought this was a mistake that maybe you didn't think you had the ability to be faithful.
And none of which is constructive or.
You don't think it's -- as -- somebody that may not.
I know -- constructive -- -- -- in the intricacies of my relationship with Jimmy justice intricacies of my relationship with the land.
I don't thinker or or for that constructive because they're not tied to somebody else's life -- tell you what is tied to somebody else's life though.
Two of the things that I did learn about marriage and get it right.
You know I had mentioned the importance of of true north in terms of one true calling in life -- not not our vocation in a new way we'll oftentimes find that -- -- but.
I would say secondly.
In the Bible talks about really -- and one's wife as Chrysler of the church.
You know I wish it was a school for guys as we grow up I mean there there there's not you kind of figured as best you can -- I don't think -- have properly love Jenny and I put to say the marriage in my camp.
Is she deserved to be loved as a woman and you know this and move the lovers -- the feeling is love is an action.
And and you not one of the guys -- took me aside -- the last couple years old timer.
-- from actually Jackson Hole Wyoming.
-- -- in this is simplistic so I'm not trying to be chauvinist here but.
He -- you know quarter every man wolf let's Begin with court every woman's need for security and emotional or financial -- nest.
Security she gets -- -- happy -- for encouraging she doesn't get that she can be some other attributes.
Court every man -- -- -- significant for significance if He gets it.
In his work and he's gonna get there but if He if you deadly mine become scout -- a Little League coach.
But he's gonna get the -- respective significant and some foreign to get the dance of marriage right.
I didn't that the woman is getting the security she needs in the minutes getting the respect or significant reasonable way up if you get that -- wrong.
If the man does not regime -- He -- in terms of loving the wife.
That a lot of things can slowly go wrong number twenty years I think that that's an important one and lastly I would say another important lesson that I learned.
Is important to put marriage -- the mantle piece.
-- and that means you treated special and unique.
Above a lot of -- I think for instance.
That it was a mistake I asked you need to be the campaign manager for -- of my campaigns.
You talk about the difficulty in managing rolls -- campaign managers to your boss and you give -- Thursday night from Washington.
Let's go to that list of -- you did or didn't make not just wanna go to -- pro.
You know I EE EEE can be very difficult to manage -- I think that delivers his efforts are very very important based on in your saying and I think.
I think people can learn from I think you know because there -- a lot of people get your situation than they never talk again and maybe your two years -- reflection to be helpful.
In retrospect I went back and I looked at your press conference room and I looked at comments that you have made and one particularly interview you actually said.
You know that you know on weighing your political career etc.
that you would be able to die knowing that you admit your soul mate.
And it was one of those things you said that I knew the cost.
And you're talking about putting -- marriage on this mantle open.
Did you think that day what your wife is thinking when you give -- the same -- other woman is my soul may not this woman that I spent twenty years -- You can play again a whole host of mistakes none of which I'm gonna particularly walk through reviews.
But I think it relevant thing of the three things just pointed out in terms of lessons learned.
There's been an undeniable and real connection between myself and and and -- and for you know almost twelve years.
It's been nothing temporary short term.
And and as you take life it is it is incoming president going -- -- -- -- let me ask us what benefit because one of the things in your wife.
Why -- thought was very gracious in one sense you believe you can get back on track she believed you always sincere that you got off track you can get back on track.
But not your marriage ended she describes her she found the letter and she discover -- this this was going on.
Which also described in detail on a book the day that.
You announced this to the world when you came back from that trip when you're supposed to be off hiking on a trail.
And didn't you in fact went to Venezuela that you have been separated them point them.
And she said she said to you.
You cannot call after you had requested numerous times to go back.
You know to see this woman.
And so I guess the question is you know if you're obsessing over this woman.
And you want to go back and -- again and again.
And you've got these young kids at home in this wife that you think now in retrospect we should've put on on a mantle and and serve better.
My question is.
Why aren't you thinking that at the time why aren't you you know making a mental image of -- of your kids.
As -- flying to you know meet this woman.
In another country.
Again a long range of different emotions a long range of different thoughts.
All of which falls for me in the personal category.
And healthy respect edges but even even the day than I think the important part does -- when I go back to which is are there lessons learned based on my mistake.
Always -- any -- -- what is is is one.
You gotta get to you know I think there's a temptation -- to have a 78 faith and I was guilty of that and I'm still not there I'm on the journey.
But what god wants is a 100% -- not not seven -- but a 100%.
I would say secondly.
Again you've got to make it a hate it you know when you put not your hunting trip not your work -- and exporting of that.
But what you wife would rather do ahead of what you would rather -- you -- -- -- get the synchronization right and thirdly you gotta I gotta protect Medicare you gotta protect that marriage I'll pick it up -- we are welcome back we have much more open my exclusive interview with former governor Mark Sanford coming up right after the break -- -- continues.
I'm asking -- how are you thinking.
When you're flying off -- your girlfriend and He promised -- enough about what he's thinking of seven.
That's a lesson I think people who -- -- you don't know the conversation I had with my wife.
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