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I -- and there is a troubling new study out being reported on by the Associated Press of which says that die young people overwhelmingly agreed that.
There is a pervasive.
-- On the Internet right now these younger people getting involved with social networking they're experiencing.
False rumors and also making big mistakes themselves putting out pictures and things are sometimes privately and then things -- going public.
Just a big.
Set of issues -- people to deal with another joining us is Erica cats who is the author of Bob bonding over beauty a mother daughter guide to self esteem confidence.
And trust we have -- before and now we welcome her back and you know these digital issues you just say -- that even this article points out that.
You know of the Internet didn't invent of these issues that didn't they didn't invent the turmoil of the teen years -- Romantic breakups -- fights jealous rivalry is teasing.
And bullying and rumors and what not all -- that was around before but why isn't so much worse on the Internet.
I think it's so much -- on the Internet because it can go to so many people so if something happened at your school.
You can -- get away from it.
And maybe two weeks goes -- month goes by and it's over.
But now an inappropriate picture I knew it on the Internet -- Anbar to no matter where you go out no matter what college you apply to you it's still there.
The other thing that's really troubling is that.
When something goes on the Internet.
You can get hordes of other people -- -- in with it so what happens is there's something called.
Bullying by proxy which means -- you get other people involved and people don't even realize they're involved so for instance.
Somebody can send a text message and you can forward it.
And then you don't even realize that it's forwarded it.
To another person another -- another person before you know -- 800000.
People have hoarded this one text message that so hurtful.
So I think.
It goes to so many more people and it never goes away and that's what's so difficult and so -- -- to these kids.
Yeah pending on the other side of that you know there are cases where people are victims of what other people do to them maliciously but on the other hand they're victims of their own stupidity at times they're putting stuff out there there are attracted to -- -- war of making themselves the celebrity.
I totally agree because basically FaceBook and Twitter is how.
Kids make themselves celebrities among their friends He averaged tenth grader has 600 to 800 friends on FaceBook.
So if they -- a great picture of themselves and paste but.
Think people everybody's gonna say oh that's so cool but a lot of times people are going to be -- -- -- and they're gonna say you look fat you look ugly your sillier whenever it is.
Making it really cool with that so.
That's where it becomes really tricky and we do -- Middle East where celebrity is so.
Important to kids and they watch a lot of reality television in which nothing is private.
Everything is out there so I think parents need to address the privacy issue with her children.
And tell them.
What is crying fit and it when you're sitting in front of your computer in your own home you feel like things are private but nothing is private.
-- Texas private know -- private.
Nothing you put on FaceBook -- private even if you remove it.
People can still find it so I think it's very important that parents educate your children as to how not to make yourself a victim.
The number one thing have to teach their kids is do not put inappropriate pictures on the web.
A lot times from -- will go out with a point.
And she's really in love with hand and hopefully I'll come on.
Tell -- -- picture you can you picture so she thinks it's just between the two massive pioneer and -- -- that picture.
Then they break come in -- let's show it to our friends and she's mortified and it can be a very troubling thing.
For -- golf at -- for anybody that even these celebrities it happens to all the time so.
Yes we look at them -- we -- -- their own stupidity but forced the fictional kids don't have the same kind of reasoning skills.
-- adults should have but don't always have -- so I -- by the parents have to step up and make sure they have these conversations.
Yes and I think an important thing too is passwords.
Parents need to.
No their child's FaceBook password not just be their friend because they can adjust their friend.
They can block you from seeing certain things so it's -- you have their FaceBook password and you look at what they're posting because that there applying to colleges.
I -- to work.
To -- alumni engineering from my university.
An ice a look at their FaceBook page because it tells you will -- about that we don't you don't want inappropriate pictures on that FaceBook page -- you want your password on Twitter He should own all their passwords.
And also be should be changing their passwords frequently.
Because one of the ways you can really become a victim is it.
You keep your path which your friend your friend -- in almost and they send messages it looks like it's coming from you right but if not -- -- from you yeah that's apparently -- pretty common one is yes fascinating.
Other people and is one person created a FaceBook page.
Pretending to be another woman and then -- all kinds of stuff and made the woman looked terrible she wasn't even on FaceBook.
And that kind of -- -- want -- -- -- if you give your password to a friend well don't don't you tell.
Should never get your pastor and if you are the victim of cyber bullying or three things you can do you.
The first thing is as a parent you have to tell your children no matter what happens come to me.
You have to be supporting.
None of this sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt we have to get rid of that phrase because you know what words -- hurt.
And when He goes out to millions of people believe me it's hurtful I think you have to -- kids come to me.
Second thing if you're -- cyber bullied He should not respond because often times the cyber police.
He's trying to get your child in -- because they write something negative to the child and the child responds back.
And write something that -- almost on your China looks bad for -- these terrible things.
Then in the third thing is you want to report it and if you.
If it just happens once they don't want to meet those messages because those don't messages are -- evidence and if it gets worse.
And it becomes more serious you want to have all the evidence and then you can have professionals help -- find out where this.
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