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And there are basically seven signs and they -- around compatibility components.
And the first -- is generally being like minded.
And that you know there's a misnomer that opposites attract that's truly only when it refers to temperament I'm high -- he's laid back.
That balances and brings a better level to the relationship -- you have like mindedness and a balance in terms of temperament.
You want to go on.
Well.
Let's have -- so are using the age old thing opposites attract.
With -- with the ballot if people people -- take patents for the use it as a license to go marry the wrong person you don't wanna who has.
We're talking about opposites don't attract when it -- and you don't wanna marry and -- -- -- now thank you look bad if you wanna get.
The right one because if you get the right -- we can have a long term.
Last a long lasting and very happy relationship so that's our -- if you wanna find someone that's like you.
So compatibility centers around similarities.
The way that you think your direction your morals and values and those things have to be -- comment.
But when it comes to temperament we want to have a balance and that's where you have a Green light to have an opposite and that will attract and that will bring a balance -- the temperament.
Think about it if -- high strung and he's -- strong my god to burn each other around.
Yeah that's true my my husband's complain or you may really sound a little tight -- -- high strung I don't know if you can get that such a short period.
Why you can't.
Well thank you.
Yeah completely the opposite -- he's very laid back and -- is something he feels passionate about.
And he knows he's right and everybody else is wrong thinking -- an eight imagine that right okay let's bring forward.
You were both committed to do the work what kind of work are we talking about.
Well you know especially -- females were -- -- relationships and we think that marriages.
You know someone on a white Steve coming to rescue us the truth is there's the last romance and -- reminding data they areas of marriage.
They got to be committed to doing the work and it really isn't just love that's gotta carry you through you have to also works -- got to roll up your sleeves and get ready to do that.
Okay and you're able to speak to your partner's love language is this appropriate warnings.
Of course -- okay of the course.
Our tendency is that we give to one another what we want -- what we'd like.
But that's not really the right way to do it again we'll find out what it what is it that communicates love to them and then we give them that.
That that is really not understanding loved language -- yeah.
-- one another what we life.
Mean but -- don't do that though because that's what we're comfortable doing we don't do it to be selfish we do it because.
Well I love that cup of coffee in the why don't drink coffee I think things.
But whenever I love it whenever in the morning Simon again that's my -- because it'll make him feel as good as I did and what you're saying isn't it.
No we usually do when -- find out what makes him feel better and give him back.
Wow okay I may have a question here on sat.
Michael -- landscape is here he's a political.
The strategists and a pollster.
But he's lean forward listening to you like he has listened to know other than that I -- -- it went so what what would you like to ask the doctor.
Obama -- question I didn't know that I was going to be talking about marriage today I think that that that idea of love languages is as accurate I think.
You know we've been in my marriage.
My wife's looking out for me every day and I'm looking out for her -- and then I'll have to look out for myself as much and she -- the lookout for herself to.
Yeah well.
-- you've answered you've given me warm Fuzzy is OK number five you were able to work together to resolve problems.
And there are problems.
Is.
There going to be problems every day.
You have to figure out how do you work.
Understanding each -- to put buttons and hot -- how we work together to resolve our problems -- have to learn to fight fair.
And you have to be respectful of one another even the differences which come to play when we're having disagreements.
That we have to set some guidelines.
Like perhaps one needs to cool down and think about it so then we need to know that because maybe you walk away during the conversation I take that as he put down so.
We have to figure those things out map them out.
And then apply the rules and follow them and then things will work very well and the next one I know this sounds so basic you have to be attracted to them.
Yeah that's called chemistry.
And we really what happens is that when we first are intrigued by someone there's chemicals that go off and our bloodstream that keep us enamored enough to take time to find out.
Whether they are suitable for us but that compatibility in terms of our chemical attraction.
Remains throughout the duration of our relationship and it keeps things hot and spicy so we want that.
What are you by the way because that looks hot and spicy is that Miami Heat being I don't know I mean it's about eighty degrees here everybody.
-- Gary.
Studio.
Brain chemicals point Michael's eyes again a glaze over and he was -- I keep -- -- -- -- have a two and a four year old -- get -- personal here.
But you know it's it's -- -- did you stuff going on.
You do so you have to deadly start to plan things.
And a lot of times people think -- that's going to take the mystery.
And a lot of the passionate way of planning it's how you make sure that it gets Don yeah they gonna have to satisfy time -- sentinel the grammys and.
Let you in your husband has some time together where you can keep rekindling your -- battery.
Yeah well I wanna -- should he have time to come together sexually.
Frequently throughout the week.
Love battery.
OK the last thing is you generally like who your partner is as a person.
Yes being for investigative foundation the relationship you spent a lot of time together if you don't really like who they are.
It's not really going to give you a long lasting or fulfilling relationship.
