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I let the -- you well know what's going on financially in their homes and a lot of people still do -- and this is the concern especially for women.
Taylor Armstrong is with this right now she on Beverly Hills housewives I guess that means you a reality TV star but also more importantly author of her book.
Hiding from reality it is all over the set there it is right now.
I love your story and so many levels but because we are business show I would really love to focus.
On this notion of being Armstrong's.
If I could -- -- yes because.
I mean you're Smart.
You're speaking -- Smart intelligent woman you have the capacity to do anything and yet somehow this happens right how.
I think it's slow rumble you know -- no one needs to you and then controls you instantly happens over time that I'm very concerned because I get a lot of letters from all over the world and women tell me constantly.
They don't have the financial capability to leave and their stats in eight.
Violent situation whether the emotional abuse physical abuse but it's the financial abuse that holds then there.
And I didn't have access to bank accounts I didn't have access to our trust which was nonexistent asked her.
And my husband's death -- I recognize very quickly.
I didn't have the records that I needed in place and all of that.
Was really -- to me that I wasn't asking the right questions early on in making sure that my daughter and I were prepared in the event as a car accident or anything else that -- happen so just so people understand the background you do have a little girl but she's talented she's on the sixth.
And your husband recently committed suicide how long -- gonna in August okay and so.
Prior to backs yes did you they were there any signs to you that things were potentially.
Not right financially.
Did you know there was no money no I had no idea and he -- -- that we had a fourteen million dollar trashed and I was the trustee and it was not traffic protection trust.
None of which ended at.
Being accurate they trusted exist it was in deep.
I had no documentation of the -- so once that the death occurred we really had to go on and big fishing expedition to find documentation and and and track everything down and so how -- You spend all that you know it.
People want to show they think -- gobs and gobs of money just comes endlessly in the coming endlessly if there was no money I have no idea created in -- and I found maybe.
1015 bank accounts all of which were empty and we had no joint checking accounts whatsoever and -- I think that that I.
I really at regret is signing documents because my husband told me to have here Simon's they had to sign it.
And you -- to have that.
And what it felt to me I should say as just my marital responsibility just to do what he asked me to do and at times it it what I didn't know what I'm signing there's.
All different levels of abuse and unfortunately for you I think you've hit all of them at one point that this financial abuse that doesn't.
It doesn't just happen to really wealthy people or people -- presumed to be really -- I mean I.
And a single mom on divorce is well I have had people say to me I can't leave -- -- -- -- how to do it and these are people who live in really modest homes in.
And why do you think we've become so.
Do you think it's because of the way you know society wants us your home -- take care of the kids and you do all that I'll take care the money honey don't -- Absolutely and and my has -- also was in a palimony lawsuit with his previous girlfriend and so from the very beginning he told me.
He was just very guarded when it came to money and I wanted to respect that I didn't want him to think that I was with him for any reason the fact that I truly love them and so.
By asking that money question and it it almost feels it's in -- -- it was embarrassing for me I should say and it felt.
Wrong like why are you asking me about finances why are you asking to have.
Bank accounts that are joint YE -- it it almost feels like you're you're golden and made you feel on.
Yes he made you feel -- rice so there's a little bit of an arrogance there that you know already there's this control factor -- already I got control of you.
If you could go back and do it differently.
Bode well -- you do.
I think if someone is gonna share her life Padilla an and you decide that you're gonna be a couple -- -- -- you're gonna stay at home on meaning data access and that's one thing and getting beyond that college speaking tour and talk and a high school kids as well.
And I I think that it's very important that when you decided to.
Then marry your -- that you also -- access to finances because no one needs to be under that type of control you can't leave because you can't support yourself because.
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