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Welcome back -- our microphones on Michael Ian black and played first and the last time but -- this book you're much too big.
To be here understand them.
No I it as I could be in this studio -- Q.
Nothing would make -- -- I understand and and that was heartfelt your new book is -- -- not doing it right of course Michael Ian Black writer comedian actor.
Created stored in many series Michael and Michael have issues still left the state we -- on and on and on and a best selling author.
And what are you not doing right.
According to my wife.
I -- In an honestly I feel that -- about myself to -- the level of incompetence and you'll in a soul that I felt like I needed to get down on paper.
And this because your turn just turned forty and that's you going to awesome stuff now.
I think it had something to do it just the idea.
I didn't I -- it was surprising to me that the turning forty would actually had any sort of psychological impact on me at all it did.
Didn't really expect get certified or registered number and yet at the approach I spent -- -- getting increasingly.
Freaked out about it.
Yelling out -- -- a very personal stuff and -- did you clear this with your wife before.
-- publishing this.
Yeah are accurate she she would she -- -- Unsure about this project because I -- -- great detail about our marriage Arum.
People proper and albeit -- -- that she and I both toward future there.
General -- -- surprise it was so personal and -- spent most of the last chapter.
And that that a lot obviously without giving anything away BII and that -- game.
Directly to her I mean -- -- are personally then it's.
-- -- As much as as much as the book is about.
The ups and down disparaged.
For me it really is ultimately a very personal kind of -- letter to her -- -- and and the idea marriage in general I mean it's.
And yet it's the kind of optimistic -- even though I think I'm very honest about all the typical -- that -- Well I think you say a lot of things that people think but they're afraid to say.
And that was my instinct my instinct was to write something.
It -- articulate a lot of time I read books.
We're either one partner is an idiot never partners -- saints were more people are just like so miserable with each other.
And that's that's not how I experience of their experience prior to this series of up and down.
And I felt like there are I felt like it was in reading it kind of honest portrayal about the larger because I experience that so that's what I wanna do electorate really sort of frank on the fact that.
Yet you say you kind of backed -- getting married you broke up first.
She was living with her boyfriend wherein we got together.
That's not a good not a good start.
That's not the way you want to start a relationship.
But we did I mean we kind of fell in love the parent I was seeing somebody at the same -- to violence and cellular -- -- sort of tumultuous.
Come back soon settled into a tumultuous media and -- and present.
And and the thing about with your kids now -- -- -- some things you don't like doing with your kids -- -- pretty pretty candid about that.
Well chapter tank he would be entitled I keep my BD.
You because I -- by the ADI I had my first child I signed with policy and so for the first four months that his life.
We were just up with him.
As she was crying his little heart out.
Stared at miserable -- he was as much as he was suffering I could you have here black.
Because I was all permissible and suffering and if you've ever been through that if you ever had a quality child you know how.
Desperate you become in miserable and tortured you become it's it's cool little torture.
Were you when you're not allowed to promote for the kind Putin -- I defy anybody to have -- like that and not think to yourself I hate my -- Let's I don't have kids because -- chapters like that the -- that the -- -- -- -- I would I would this discourage anybody from having children these.
Now what's your club when -- -- Well.
When I was growing up I grew up in a lesbian household my mom came out when I was -- -- my parents divorced and we ended up moving into it for Parker.
And her her -- -- you do two mommies.
-- -- -- -- -- -- And so my mom sort of went through this very sort of stereotypical.
Saying where all -- kind of became male chauvinist pigs each chapter.
For Alan Alda it's sort of held up in my -- -- as you tend bar.
And should see and feel like grew up with all this keeping resentment -- Alan all but it's actually my mom.
And you never -- -- -- therefore you never lived up to being you know I would very briefly Alamo.
You had an -- on the -- phase and you hit -- that the death.
So at one point you pleased your month.
At one point yet I've beaten my brother Derek had been her I could've been him or -- -- she would've been happy.
That was about it.
Michael Ian Black is -- and author of the new -- -- -- doing it right and now you seem to have this obsession with as you describe him fat Kevin Federline.
What is that a lot of.
I'm talking about how.
I -- my my wife asks me what it can be doing all they have been working.
When really doing is -- going images that fact Kevin Federline.
And I'm sure your listeners know him as the experiences.
Excitement but when they got married you'd like it's very sort of life athletic they insert and then after they got reports people leading into the it's.
Corn row wearing.
Walk up it became.
That's with pictures that camp and would what would literally stared them for hours and be an -- -- because.
I sort of was.
He she was sort of becoming a symbol for all my it's placed years in the -- piece about what I was doing with my own life.
It seemed like Q with a guy you kind of had -- saying.
And then found himself and circumstances that he probably could pocket anticipated and probably didn't understand and I -- like that's probably.
Actually it was like that there but for the grace of god to -- in the moment but it's -- continue to -- which -- that the state also got -- -- -- That's.
Kind of a theme that runs is this is that at certain moments we kind of look at her life to -- -- imminent is this me.
-- -- slight -- this work but imminent let me go back a little bit conceived and how to get here.
That's sort of the theme of the book for me at this sort of staggering realization.
That I am not the person I thought I was gonna be -- the younger person and and moreover.
Once I accepted that I realized that I'd like the person I -- far more than I'd like the first -- but I thought I was going to be.
I thought I was gonna be like this what Mario prowling the fact that you are the -- -- say that it turned that like I am.
A yup -- suburban.
And I love it like that's kind of just to what it was meant to be -- what I expected back and sort of did that's -- attachments.
I realized that and much much happier just accepting myself for who I am.
When I was in college leaders saying we are the people -- parents warned us about.
I think apt description for exactly like you about myself.
I I I am -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- It seems like you've arrived at acceptance.
I know I'm not only -- like -- like total up what what I.
If -- I couldn't be happier like leaping out in the -- -- Connecticut with my wife and two kids and dog intact and I literally have a white picket fence like and and I love it.
Yet you still fantasize about divorce.
-- look at what so what -- how does that mashup with what you -- -- that.
What one of the great joy of being married.
-- the thing at this feasible idea but being divorced like you know the grafts will always -- I think no matter what situation here and and my wife and I are sort of very -- with each other like you know whatever we met or work even just bickering at all.
We -- ethnic jokes about getting divorced and it actually really nice it's really nice.
To sort of be able to sort of give voice to your faith that he never how lousy they might be to the person that your marriage.
I think the staying out of things doesn't.
I'd you know I think over the years we I think you know one of the pieces of advice prepare the public didn't learn how to act in your partner and I think that's really what we've learned how to do.
Michael Ian Black is with -- -- -- -- -- -- not doing it right you've got a new book coming up with Megan McCain.
-- -- who would have thought that.
It's an odd pairing and I think that was sort of the appeal for -- -- we didn't know each other when we decided to write this but do you work.
I would we had that very briefly over satellite what I was doing a television show and she with -- -- on it and like a week or two later I had taken an Ambien and was on Twitter and you.
It when you normally you regularly taking Ambien is -- I I yes I'm I'm embarrassed that they that they do.
I take too much heavier I think -- we don't like tonight.
This first our stress and relaxation and stuff.
Well yeah yeah I would on Twitter and I think that he was done and I think -- Indianapolis but we should write a -- together and do that -- -- -- And then -- -- -- Eric you know me an idea can be emailed back and forth for a few ideas few weeks everything but the idea and the idea is that we would get into -- -- together.
And travel the country West Coast to East Coast over the course of a month you and talk to people from all walks of life about the state.
Their country because she had nothing -- department she's -- she's a conservative Republicans.
Up blinds chipped it has single and living not -- that -- -- the opposite of that.
And so we have nothing in common on paper and nothing in common really politically.
And yet we were able to have this -- meeting tying together this amazing find adventure with Al.
Truly yelling at each other -- -- the authorization.
It's a book about common ground and having it break time -- karaoke.
Although I think I understand that Cindy McCain's out of -- yours is a true.
I think she is now -- -- be -- acting -- -- -- -- -- made before we actually back.
Which is probably why aren't considering it was going to be living with her daughter come -- And she sounds what phrase semi pornographic videos got me on the ethernet hub of the comedy sketches that I did it yeah -- you know.
I think she had a reservation but at that point contracts have been signed and that it was -- -- but but -- you know.
Cindy McCain is a perfect example.
Somebody who like a very distinct preconceptions about based on everything that's on the media debates in my own prejudices.
And she could not have been -- The opposite of that war Amaechi it's such a lovely gracious woman yeah yeah.
It was you and an -- and so like that the and it made me feel terrible -- it out Pittsburgh you know this negative impression occurred but it just goes to show you.
That when you take the time to sit down with somebody.
They -- they are all incomplete human beings.
And I'm thinking about that -- little when I was thinking about into bite bite part -- who whose work I found absolutely despicable.
All right I'm with you on that and I get to meet him a couple of times an interview -- and I found to be utterly charming in person.
But the hated everything he wrote and -- for.
And I'm sure I would have felt exactly the same way air and you know I.
Politics can be so.
Keeping it and I think unnecessarily and I think everybody thinks that and yet the temperature just keeps getting ratcheted up and up and up for -- hoping with this book.
You know look we're not gonna solve any problems we're not policy wonks but we are people who care about the country and care about -- -- time and that's what the -- the about.
And you do look good for forty so you know I would to know more about that -- like -- very.
I thought we thank you have Michael Ian black and political -- doing it right thank you very much are coming -- with us tonight appreciate -- -- --
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