Defining Your Identity
Stedman Graham joins Alan to discuss how you can achieve success by taking control of your identity.
- Duration 10:25
- Date Apr 4, 2012
Stedman Graham joins Alan to discuss how you can achieve success by taking control of your identity.
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Kennedy your passport to success and thank you for this identity -- four -- -- appreciate it very much.
And it's really an interesting book for you to run because.
And -- can't in this -- your -- life and what you've gone through which is great.
But when people -- your name and they hear it they think of Oprah right that's gonna be is how how annoying is that.
If -- Oprah's partner and Stedman Graham as always you always have that association and carving -- your identity.
Has probably had to be accounted.
Well it's really taught me to be able to not have other people define you put it for you'd be able to find yourself -- just mesh with the world via.
Is not had not be defined by your labels not be defined by your color your background your parents what you didn't have your gender.
In all -- external things your job your title.
You know but to be able to work on yourself and then develop -- strong core -- They -- -- especially strong person to be with a woman to be with the woman with Oprah rebel -- human -- and keep -- and -- you keep your core.
And that there have and that cares so much about what the rest of world might think of when my -- elements four can -- for the iTunes -- -- around the world and -- people was opens an excellent -- and -- process do that.
And I -- non -- success -- process just for that.
Yeah I want to -- symbolism processes I wanna go to some of the steps -- early before you get other steps in the book you actually talk about.
Being black and growing up in -- neighborhood in New Jersey.
White privilege about the bad neighborhood -- nothing good ever humanoid girl while -- thank -- for reading yeah yeah I.
Group and Albright tell -- -- county where this in the for the -- to -- -- otherwise -- that was one label.
A group to -- rose just another label yes you know I grew up as a basketball player -- another label.
Yes so well I had to do is again and find out who I was took me about thirty something you're really getting regulated there's a -- like India where six black guy must be a best of -- there so -- -- -- -- -- -- -- you know what this is not about race.
I thought it was I thought I was being defined by my -- all my life it's about process education information.
Relevancy it's about development is about skills it's about passion in this self nationalization of that to define who you are.
What happened in your thirties that.
We had an epiphany -- what what occurred at that time that enabled you to kind of turn the balancing -- little -- Well -- traveled around with a gun and gentleman named Bob Brown.
And view some great mentor for me and I worked for him he struggled -- -- where analysts -- -- -- from a small town mentality.
It relies of people around the world -- developing themselves and they were.
In those successful and all I realize they're all different colors.
-- so was this.
And I realize sort of the way -- -- so that's when the first became conscious.
Allen then the lack of process in my alive and that really understand America -- in the process -- and he was -- businessmen.
-- the -- go to first that was the first this.
Truman in as an old saying that change the way you look at things -- things look at changer when I changed my perspective when I start to change my thinking.
And Oprah that she was able to change her thinking throughout my whole life was elections able to assimilate into world.
And focus our talents and skills but you know reporters who won the united -- you've you've said you've been very gracious all the things you said -- interviews for this book that you've learned so much from Oprah but I'm also wondering.
What she might have learned from you because you've been a motivational speaker and a motivated earlier life.
You know I have become a visionary and big picture and so also I'm not -- of success and -- wanted to be happen and that's that's and that's huge thing.
When I can be supportive -- -- by the fact made that.
Understand how little worse and that's still learn -- you say don't look at how well -- what what are you referring to well -- army earlier on.
-- that you just were greens.
Yeah you just didn't know what you were doing and who you learned yeah she knows who she is you don't know who you are you're trying to find.
Yourself it's out of all of that they have very different and you -- -- this look it's not easy you know it's easy to define -- you -- how do you go about that process to.
Because that's where to where we're -- start to get to the giant steps.
You gotta find -- New -- well you have to gets an internal -- development process so you have to go and find your passion than what you love what you care about all people were successful.
If you are well you know they they love what they do yeah.
They care about it and they worked and they were to work through work and develop you gotta find your passion in the first place and you go to apply who you -- to that but it's about love.
You'll love what you do.
In the organize.
Information on the -- right now the -- the the school system to should memorize take -- -- information regularly with the grade class which led to explain that.
You say Africa.
So the way to set up there's only so that for you to be a work another thinker.
Yeah when you turn into a -- When you turn a learning process of which is to take information and make it relevant to who you walk every day.
But everybody's equal because of revised when our sources when you do -- -- -- you organize and run you and so you can empower yourself.
I'm is a great equalizer although questions -- -- guess identity your passport to success is his new book ten books right you've had ten boasts eleven books I was younger.
Before -- get to the -- have to do and as you can about this issue of Oprah and and how do you maintain your identity.
Would someone who's become that some rich successful you pointed out -- interviews started Mississippi.
Knew -- knew was not well known managed to do her own core of being become we should how do you maintain it let's make it very simple yeah.
That's her alive -- there -- -- -- yeah that's who she is there's that line and so that's her money.
That's her what she's created -- a beautiful thing yeah create that but could they go strong go out and create your own -- be happy when you're alive.
And -- -- have you the people you said in the book that you spent a lot of years being very angry.
Yes a lot of rage lottery is an -- company -- came from race based consciousness may that one of them record came from.
Not understand the processes success not had not being able to thing.
You know you have the potential to be somebody you want to be somebody but you -- know -- yes a frustration heading to get over the race.
Well because you view review it to find use it to work with in yourself you have to go within yourself to find which are good which passion about some of these and release all of that.
That negative energy you really have to focus on this is this is a process for organizing your life -- -- what you love and care about so you can love yourself first.
Organize your own loving your own heart and your own mind changer -- thank you work of the work on what you can do is -- what you can't do in the itself like was when you when you.
-- -- -- this is word now I'll just -- play OK right now and it's definitely adrenaline that little you know for the week and a lot of self work when your original question.
We're -- -- but some of the nine steps -- to personally got to find -- New York.
Barnett -- by organized and everything local prison -- invited them all you have its army or your hobbies all the things you should care about.
Places you wanna go all the things that you can imagine.
And then you view that becomes -- foundation for thinking.
And then you take information and education make irrelevant some you can grow you have a foundation for thinking and developing them building in the process for continuous improvement.
The the second step in the course of six success processes used -- -- -- -- vision.
For who you -- -- become who can you become what you life destination based on -- Vision is what you can see so you believe -- first and you visualize.
-- -- to have a plan.
-- I have to be an excuse so what helped me was I'm right bribery in person focused on the big vision.
-- focused on big picture old I in the process yet so announced it's over process so Americans can now execute.
The first deputy got to be able excuse to force that -- rules ruin your -- principles you about your system you vision.
If steps opens ago that was so -- fiercest -- emotions -- love.
In this sphere six step as policies and the changes -- what happens to you but -- respond to a lot of change we go through today.
Service that is there was drinking and I haven't seen or emotional moment -- if you're if you're right brained person you -- violent -- people who -- -- -- -- -- -- -- Your best success to -- if you're right regular -- unique vision and the inability to get in and none of the week the cap you know is exactly right so you wanna hold break 45% of -- people.
A right -- in the world for the purpose of the people look -- in the world 10% over.
Just I hope -- that this commit to your vision has far though.
So passionate person that they can sustain yourself awful long time is based on all -- -- This is a process of organize your life around you.
And this doesn't sound like you do it overnight either get it.
That's in my journal live picture reinventing yourself -- -- -- yourself mission and vision than -- planned use of new team you're expanding your prospective.
You're building your growing -- -- Yeah you're and you talk about this a -- us or you're the professor -- -- -- go to colleges.
-- people need to know your resume and the things you've done in order to get this message that you've.
You're an adjunct professors -- -- well you have -- -- number universities -- -- -- I have of course been created a university and now I have curriculum in schools.
-- You know -- first -- about worked a number years to try and institutionalize.
Institutionalize this -- side of the existing.
Which school -- structure where we can get it in sub elementary schools middle school high school to change the way they think.
So it becomes a -- support system for.
Education and united and that angry guy in your twenties and early thirty human ever gotten to where you are now to have overcome that that probably in some -- way probably -- you.
Become the world have our determination perseverance and so do millions of other people.
If so where you source information in the where you learn you have to -- -- -- and when you become a learner.
You organizes information around you so you learn.
And then you're able to empower yourself you can create your own destiny you know future the book is gone and edit your passport to success stemming grams of polite to me to thank you so much easier pleasure to meet you big failure -- you -- coming right back at 8774.