Raising self-sufficient kids
Author reveals rules for responsibility
- Duration 3:44
- Date Apr 18, 2012
Author reveals rules for responsibility
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A recent pew poll revealed that 15 people between the ages of eighteen and 34 still getting an allotments from their parents.
Or other family members our next guest says if parents don't stop fawning over their kids and bailing them out it could cripple the nation.
-- the author of the responsibility rules living a self disciplined life in a self entitled world good morning -- since.
Thank you -- good morning this one of my pet -- as well it just seems as if they're sort of his victim mentality in our society can you expound upon them.
Well you're absolutely right there it is and what we see all around us as a lack of personal responsibility.
We've seen our government we see in our schools we -- -- -- our institutions and we even see it in our own families.
This book really was written in response -- a few things that happen to us that really is that brought back the the fact that there's families do not want to be -- parents don't want to be parents they want to be friends.
And we had an underage drinking party at her house.
And when we discovered this and we -- they had twenty kids.
The parents I got to parents out of twenty that send their children -- -- over to apologize.
And the other eighteen I got responses such as.
Well they were only there for twenty minutes and one person that I just went up one side -- and -- the other about how they it was my fault that their child within my house.
So I'm a few weeks later we had an episode on our soccer team with parents swooping in to more kids entitlement.
And I felt I had to do something and -- right this is an epidemic in our country and it's a -- -- -- in the workplace -- seed in the government.
And it's it's really is the lack of personal responsibility is a threat to our democracy.
If I mean I'm called me mom that I actually make my kids earn their technology time that.
I don't know I guess I'm old -- -- let's look at some of the rules that are in your book -- 175.
There's a lot about the parents job is to make themselves obsolete when he name.
Exactly your job is not to be apparent when your child has thirty and they want to move back into your base that your job is to launch an out into the world to give them skills that allow them to be responsible adult.
You your job is to make yourself obsolete your that you are repair for ever and that you love and your care for your child or your child has to deal to stand on their own two feet.
-- -- -- You guys who've been to their college are into their boss's office or into their lives and -- and expect them to be mature responsible adults will fifteen you don't get a medal for just showing up healthy self esteem is derived through hard work.
And accomplishment I mean my goodness how -- do we see this right now sneaking at a soccer field everyone gets a medal for everything.
Just for showing up and -- I know we've talked to a lot of people that -- substantial business says.
And they're seeing this for these kids today just coming in from college and they expect six six figure salaries they expect the corner office they want the best assignments.
Do you have to earn that you have to earn respect you have to earn those rewards and kids are being taught as they're brought up to the system and -- -- -- over and coddled by the parents.
They don't have to earn it it just isn't there entitled to -- for breathing and it's a very rude awakening to that once they get out into the workforce you also believe that this sense of entitlement to the lack of personal responsibility.
Is holding United States back from a full recovery economically how.
I do because I think really that we have -- many are expecting a -- to bail them out.
They're expecting entitlements and so on and we've seen this in in Europe in Greece in a Monday Italy and some of -- socialist countries.
Where we have a few that are supporting the many they're entitled to -- a thirty hour workweek so whenever.
I see that sort of thing happening in this country and I think it's very scary.
While it's amazing books his intentions the author the responsibility rules -- a self disciplined life in a self entitled world.
And I love what inspired you to write this I mean just regular person who decided to take action.
Susan thanks so much -- grandson.