How do you find the one?

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I am Dr.

-- and this is fox extra.

It's the age old question how do you find the one.

If your love life seems like again never ending cycle highs and lows you're a tact -- style may be to blame.

But new research can help put your personality needs and annoyances into perspective.

And lead to a healthy relationship.

Joining me now -- psychiatrist -- neuroscientist.

Doctor Amir Levine to talk about his new book act hatched.

Thank you for being.

You know I've been reading of this book and it's just fantastic because you know as I get older and -- -- so many years I'm trying to figure out if I find if I found the one.

I'm not sure are -- but anyway.

But let let's start with some of the things are you finding your book you categorize people or personalities into three categories -- morality.

So it's actually not exactly need there's a huge signs behind it and just bring it to go get -- taking credit for this I'm not gonna I have for you -- you're telling us right but I thirty so there is anxious there's avoidance and -- secure these are the three attachments so it could tell me a little bit about this -- quickly this style of each one.

-- us to do how comfortable we human intimacy and closeness in the top preoccupied you -- with -- relationship so if you're anxious you love to be close to love to be intimate.

But you also tend to worry a lot about not being -- that.

And that's me right here -- -- top five seconds he diagnosed me on the -- she's gotten.

And then the secure.

The secure people are warm and loving them up to be close but they don't tend to worry so much about the relationship they don't -- their partners every five minutes so they think it for granted.

Well no no they don't take -- for granted but they know that you're there they feel comfortable being close to you hugging you.

Being very intimate so that'll make a big fuss about but they're not as sensitive yet exactly and -- sense that I like that yes they are not offensive so and the third category.

The third categories -- and so people have been avoided that that's -- style they also want to be in a relationship because we really all hard wired to wanna be in a relationship.

But then something funny happens -- getting -- relationship they feel uncomfortable with too much closeness.

And they just start pushing -- away gables -- with the way of keeping isn't it that's my wife -- the -- and now that I have the Pollard exact audio book you -- you're just guy got -- -- how are now in my hands.

So how to like use the power in finding the right relationship.

First of all.

This book is essential for anyone who's dating.

Because he will tell them daily and they can learn to tell what attachment style they are and what attachment styles other people are they can even -- -- quiz online and find out.

And then they can date they should know if you're anxious.

Go secure if you're avoiding ghosts secured don't go -- someone who thinks is because you're not going to get along.

The best the first thing but I have to tell you that often time.

Anxious in the -- and find themselves being attracted to one another thank you so much for coming in it's great.

You want more -- said the bogus call attached and is available on line and in bookstores now.

That said profiled sex thanks for watching god -- --

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