Tips to keep your kids honest
How to handle little liars
- Duration 3:43
- Date Apr 28, 2012
How to handle little liars
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And Bryant isn't all you parents out there aren't you raising little liars aren't William.
According to a new study a third of three year -- lie just to get out of trouble so how do you make sure your child does not grow up.
To be a liar joining us now -- keep.
Play team doctor -- blow up so kids Lyle -- it turns out -- research suggests why are they lying so much.
Well listen this is a normal phase of moral development.
Kids are scared.
They lied to escape consequences like the rest of us they lied because they're learning about stories they lie because they don't want to disappoint.
It's very common it's at least a third of kids -- it's you know pre -- and and it can increase.
In the school years the question is does it taper off over time that depends on what kind of role model you are how you respond to the -- initial.
And so you have some tips how to prevent your kids from growing up in two.
A -- liars that no one -- look for the yes the problem with that is that as a parent -- often times we don't know the facts say and in my daughter.
Appeared to be chewing a lot of -- and we told her to get just one piece we don't have the facts but it looks like there to there.
How do we get the fellow agent we just don't have them.
Exactly -- -- well the thing is you don't stop at.
The innocent glance you don't stop that protests -- tears you really have to keep searching because look the toy that the child said hey.
I didn't play with it in my bed last night.
And it turned that to be under the bed not under the covers you have to search a little further and because parents are.
Of the time likely to identify lying in their kids that's a coin toss so you gotta go for the facts in order to know what to do next.
Okay and you say that when you find out a figure out -- your kids are -- the next singing we recommend.
Is let -- know it lying is worse than what they did in other words the coverup is worse than the crime.
Look you -- -- tell them quite directly playing with -- toy in bed at night when you're supposed to be sleeping that's one thing but.
You want to me that's worse see what you're doing -- you're telling them how life will unfold isn't this what we've always known from Bill Clinton to the rest of these -- -- to cover up is worse than the -- As a parent as an anchor as a friend I tend to react to get a little fiery but you say if your kid is lying it's not about expressing anger.
It's about telling them you're more disappointed in them why is that so important.
That's important is I grew up with the Jewish mother who instill guilt -- but did not attend.
Now that's important because what do kids want they want love.
They can resist at a certain point especially at nine or ten or eleven you get angry.
They can get their own backs up or they can decide you know what that was very painful and -- Move around that in the future and be -- better liar but if you -- it looked.
You've really hurt me it's not the person I want you to be your better than that.
Well that encourages them to step up.
And and very very quickly how -- -- -- splash them.
Right well here's -- thing.
Not gargantuan punishment just say look now you -- earned my trust back that's your punishment now look there can be others too but the biggest one is now you've got yourself -- a -- -- earned my trust back.
And don't hire Arthur -- dollar to get yet and -- -- even though we could he could but we're not gonna -- -- that is advice to live.
-- -- -- not -- -- right now if you're a child adults can't if you're John you're an adult there's nobody better in the whole world precisely but Doug gave outlook thanks so much for coming and there's not here.