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Hello all of the health dog I'm Dr.
Manny being diagnosed with cancer is something.
That no one should go through a long.
Having the right support system to guide you through will make all the difference but sometimes family members are not sure how they can help.
He had to give us some insight is cancer patient and the founder of the -- -- -- Foundation Lori Frazier thank you for coming to the program dot.
Your background.
You were diagnosed with breast cancer yes.
And you still are going through chemo -- dealing with the breast cancer.
When you were first hole.
That you had breast cancer.
How did you break the news to -- fan.
Oh gosh that was really difficult.
And it is it wasn't difficult to get to my husband right away because I was like stunned.
There is no one in my family who ever had cancer.
-- I you know I really didn't know any other women with breast cancer are so I immediately called my husband.
But when he came to try to talking to the children that was really difficult -- they were each in town.
And it was very scary and you know we representative.
In a positive way you know.
Mom's got -- -- I see everybody get that that the good spin on it.
They both just broke broke apart.
Now.
I know you and I know that the -- person that you are.
And we have chatted privately about your breast cancer in the past and you always have -- have given me the sense that.
Family is quite important especially as you going through the disease.
Tell you -- tell people out there how you have incorporated your family.
Your intimate friends into.
Sort of living with this cancer that you.
Well first of all I was blessed with this just beautiful family and support systems I'm one of nine children.
And there isn't a person is in -- -- that didn't fly out trying to be with me and they get organized the schedule they took the time to be with me.
I also have a tremendous support system of girlfriends this last time that I I was going through the -- these last four months when I hardly could get out of bad.
I have the front door open at all times and and they would come right into my room and think for -- stuff for the kitchen for dinner they come right in my bedroom.
If I was sleeping they would just clean up the night stand and fill the water collapse and -- tissues and then give because of run out and I wouldn't even know -- Rivera relieved you know in the kitchen.
Or they come in and it's it would mean it doesn't assessment could they do and and I always told them -- -- from my legs.
Give me a massage.
You know rub my back anything I felt -- I need it.
Now you know.
As a doctor and I deliver babies for a living.
Sometimes I always have this.
I've sort of have to give instructions to husbands and how to deal with -- wife's condition.
And many of them.
You know sometimes is very difficult to get them into the groove of participating.
In their -- scare.
I I know for a fact that -- I love your husband and he's a wonderful man how did you incorporate.
You know how do we how -- wives.
-- how they held their husbands especially you know because they get scared and sometimes have been out -- the medical profession they just don't know what to do.
-- you know how do we know what tips can we give women.
To kind of deal with their husbands to get them involved because they want to be involved.
They do want to be and I would hope they would want to be involved and I would hope that.
You wouldn't treat breast cancer is something's embarrassing shameful.
You know I think you have to bring -- to share with your husband and -- on your feeling and not be afraid to tell him on to help you -- to get things for you.
And -- I think once you say that you're scared.
In your you don't know what you're gonna -- you worry about that and you open -- up off.
To let someone listened to you and and tell you that they hear you I think that makes all the difference in the world.
Now it through your foundation you have the campaign cool men for women.
Tell me about that well the reason I started that is I really believe in this day and age that a lot of the walks.
And and and events surrounding breast cancer are always tell the women you know your girlfriends -- best -- The lady you know though because sister or walk with your sister walk with your girlfriend because they really -- and they really understand.
I don't I don't believe that I mean I have -- five sisters I have three Brothers -- they care just as much of my husband really cares ha ha let's talk about your husband get invective as -- door.
How how did he help you give you some what was what was he doing you know he'll -- listened.
He listened and I think that was of the biggest thing I think after he got over the hovering right.
-- got to be a problem and it would keep walking in the room and get.
In the cost.
They feel.
An error after you know fifteen of those every -- -- -- don't ask me.
How I feel right just just get everything's okay just coming here to talk to -- -- normal person.
I don't want to be treated like a patient's right.
But -- but he was very very compassionate heat for himself went to a support group.
For spouses.
Because you know what it again and and there's a background here between her and I -- we have spoken about this condition before but two things when I bet you.
I felt very empowered by -- number one UUUU Presley breast cancer you know because a lot of breast cancer.
You know it's you know women and and women for women and that's wonderful and beautiful.
But you also believe that men should be involved in the in the sort of support.
In the in the standing.
In their reasoning behind dead in the information that is required to get their spouses in the right places so you.
You want -- -- power mad bull's -- is dissolved so what I've done is I've brought -- into my foundation to do two things.
To do on the video is either do funny videos I've used on comedians they had Jack Black to a mammogram.
On himself and then he if I end everything with please.
Make your appointment for your mammogram in your pap smear and so and then every Mother's Day the smallest they jamming up -- coming I have cards in their free.
And it's a celebrity whether it's -- you know Amy Poehler Jack Black Neil Patrick terrorists.
Series Olbermann did these are -- trying to cause these are electronic gun charges the battery free that are free and people can use in house mothers.
All my god what a wonderfully -- -- you can send it to your mother your grandmother your sister.
Whoever you want to -- it it -- that they say happy Mother's Day and they say please.
Please do me a favor make your appointment for your mammogram in your pap smear.
You know I I love the the way you taking this called sub and and and really incorporating everybody.
It's just wonderful.
You and I think you so much for coming and again.
Be sure to check out and always blog on the functions help -- -- wonderful -- has a lot of information.
You can follow her story and and really and up you know going to your foundation.
And supporting it because this is really gonna make a difference.
Thank you -- -- system that if you have a health question you can email -- here at fox had document functions dot com until next time around document.
