Kids in the digital world
What parents need to do if their children are spending too much time online
- Duration 8:46
- Date May 9, 2012
What parents need to do if their children are spending too much time online
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Welcome back to on the -- and foxnews.com.
Live if you have children you have no doubt -- elected to biffle now.
About how much time they're spending online -- they're doing on Twitter on FaceBook.
-- -- -- of social media fortunately for you we have a man who has the offices here Jim style is the author of talking back.
To face but Jim great to see you that he.
I'd say it's a big concerns a lot of parents right now isn't the case and FaceBook etc.
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It's not just FaceBook it's also cellphones and other forms of digital media -- -- literally transforming childhood and adolescence and we do so they'll what does it in -- In Walton sort of damaging ways do you think it today transforms -- -- I think I mean in the book I got about three things I call -- rap.
Simplifying it for the audience of relationships the way the human beings communicate you know you and I are having a face to face conversation now I can see.
Who you are if you're smiling inflection -- when you're doing it by.
Tax your -- FaceBook he can't do that.
I think attention and addiction issues are very real now you know you know people who compulsively use their crackberries yet so kids do that -- cell phones and FaceBook.
And then privacy issues are enormous all -- of those things very very me.
-- -- so what what should parents do if that concern festival about the man took time.
That kids spending new AM on the cell phones or -- FaceBook or whatever it is.
As as the great Nancy Reagan would say just say no I mean you've really got to just say enough is enough whether it's FaceBook video games again.
Teen boys who love to play games and of itself when you just have to set clear limits I think the other thing I would I do mean if you're in your parent you you have to role model for them.
If you're going to the dinner table and you're constantly on your own cell -- -- crackberry all -- No guise of news on yeah we're getting -- and not feeling guilty of it Bob it's true guys.
They look it -- you know -- old adage.
You don't do what I say not what I do but of course they do what you do Seattle -- be a good role model.
Certainly it did something like perhaps establishing.
You know cell phone free and social media free zones in the council at times in the hands down -- -- Absolutely I -- and desire household.
Never during the else ever and if you have that little thing out I've taken away right and and then I do that and -- professor at Stanford to an additional -- conference leading you know.
You can't have your laptop open my class -- you're not paying attention and election.
But I think there are other things that you can really do -- I think you can actually have a conversation with your kids particularly if they get older about the fact that many kids.
Self revealed before they self reflect that's really what.
It's -- -- eyes all night and actually cyber bowling the more extreme examples are or where people do stuff because it's an impersonal medium you don't have to look the person -- the -- These are enormous thing you know -- 901.
Million members of FaceBook -- before you post is thinking before you post.
Self reflect before you self reveal the you know fourteen year old girl how much are they thinking about that -- -- that's why you need to talk back to.
Little did he dealt with this -- your kids oh yeah oh sure we did and -- you know I see your helpful little list here of top ten tips for parents my favorite one actually -- number five because we were very we're very aggressive about two things -- that I give them -- -- -- children of my wife one is.
We had -- -- -- meals every single light all -- and and know intrusions were allowed of any sort right that's.
Super super helpful -- -- to give you an antidote to all this into his number your tip number five here which is location location location.
Our kids were.
Required to use the -- you know they can be on their laptops -- be -- looking.
But they had to be in the common room with -- -- we were while we were doing that Brian -- that really pay cut down on how much time they spend in an absolute sense doing.
Being AP interview some sort of natural.
Governor write what they -- -- -- -- that -- my security is your will go on their -- regarding the reality is you can't.
I mean -- the reality is were all spending more common electronic media so you do have to do some thing but doing it together and -- like a funny thing is I've been doing it in the same physical -- -- you're using him.
It also privacy is a big deal show me and you know the thing is this.
Parents are obviously the number one line of defense and parents need to read talking back to FaceBook and they need to go out there and be Smart about this but you know.
This have to -- in every school in the country we can legally -- digital literacy digital citizenship -- -- actually dole client.
He if rumors are introducing the New York City public schools copiers -- 30000 schools in the country sort of rules of the road.
Basic common sense things that every parent every kid needs to know that that's important but I'll -- -- you also need industry leadership right now.
Deafening silence from Silicon Valley about issues like showcases they want everybody doing -- they do and there's a gate arms race going on right now between FaceBook coo role -- Amazon.
Collecting your data might -- you know I'm not that we're valujet's but I am more worried about and 9014 year old girl -- revealing everything and it's sad -- for -- it's.
There's no racer but one of the things we've called for actually Joseph Barton Republican of Texas is -- lead author of a bill.
That record says do not track kids and create -- -- -- but don't tell me that Silicon Valley tech companies couldn't creation erased her -- -- from Europe.
You know the right to be forgotten to tell it what it called in your -- we should all have generated.
Yeah I love you is that fascinated by this subject him -- -- writing in saying exactly sick children like to -- -- the families do.
They usually ask him about the book he's reading which is much better way BS Celsius is as you put it just say no it's that easy.
Joyce he says no cell phones at the table in my hands.
-- and Sarah riding in his Griffin says spend time with the kids what a novel idea and that's.
Really what it's about -- -- in the end it's it's parenting 101.
It's -- -- something this is about starting a really national if not global conversation look.
This stuff happened so fast five years ago there was no iPhone no -- Mark Zuckerberg was in you know high school and and none of this existing.
So it's taking time for people to catch up you can feel the change over the past six months and you know.
We we I mean I run the biggest -- your media organization the United States common sense media.
But if you look at what I said in talking back to FaceBook it's basic parenting 101 but but we need help.
Educators I'd be involved and young people will ultimately set the rules and the norms.
One thing I'd say -- you -- parents and I have four children myself is.
Our kids are gonna define what the norms are we can give them guidance and judgment.
Ultimately this is a phenomenal change in the way all of our lives are being changed and it you know your great when there's enormous benefit from asked if.
Use why great benefits great risks to -- pricing as well.
-- great benefit to you can't ignore those of anyone who most empowering things that ever -- human history is everybody is now -- publisher is not just a receiver media everybody can publish media that's ever been true in history before.
So it's a super powerful weapon though -- you have to know how do you suspect right.
Its perils and possibilities if you will -- -- We need to talk back I mean the reason I wrote talking back to FaceBook.
You think there really does need to be a national not a global conversation because everybody's affected you know -- the book just came out yesterday.
And as I go around and -- talked with folks like you everybody has -- story everybody understands how important is it sometimes that the extreme cyber bullying or sexting problem.
But the truth is it's about the way you and I relate conference like I'd much rather sit here have a -- -- ya know who you are -- you know.
That's all they see those kids standing around in a group of people sitting at the coffee -- And every single one of them is like looking down and texting on actually and -- and you we could be sitting here.
Instead of talking to each other we're taxing job right how -- that yet again I do think it goes back Bob to the point of your role model.
If you set those clear roles and it's tough we're all your I'm sure you guys are compulsive users are your crackberry for yeah.
Far be it for media and shockingly make that comment but something tells me might be you know what else.
That's not what you need -- -- -- yet to acknowledge that your -- one -- -- -- -- parent is say.
No instead I was a perfect dad I -- I -- and I night and those timeouts are really important right you know.
My colleague -- Kirkland MIT always -- -- sap that's you know think about sort of Saturday night and Sunday it's true though.
It's so much better when you unplug.
Right there's so much good stuff here and you can still get all the benefits of this extraordinary digital world -- and it's our next week the IPO -- that's right this week is -- FaceBook -- it's not just about Wall Street -- about mainstream.
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All right Jim style also all but talking back to FaceBook it's a great book available.
All the lives digital space is -- good old fashioned brick and mortar bookstores -- -- get.
All right good great to have you here and by the way I would like to nice that I picked up my Blackberry just -- back during that ten minute conversation has been on my standards -- for you.