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    Author James Steyer on raising kids in the digital age

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Between FaceBook cell phones and video games kids so they are spending more time of -- tech gadgets than they do with their parents if you can believe that.

But myself burn I had a lot I'll -- over 400 a day my parents like here's what I'm talking about some much needed some online they don't know.

Branding which is bad to say they have that's pretty much why -- haven't -- -- -- factors.

So should you be worried Jim sire is the author of talking back to FaceBook the common sense guide to raising kids in -- digital age and he's here to give us some tips this morning.

Jim nice to see this morning wanted to be here Clinton doesn't -- well FaceBook it's just a tool right how it's no different than it was maybe during the eighties -- -- -- eighties movies with a teen girl laying on the bed talking for four hours to her best friend.

How is it different though today.

Well it's a different kind of talk -- personal digital if it's used widely can be a great tool by the way.

But it refusal on improperly can and can have real social emotional consequences for kids 'cause it's.

Remember it can be anonymous.

You're not looking at somebody in the -- like I'm looking you now right you don't have the same understanding of the emotion involved so it can really change the dialogue plus kids.

Oftentimes cure rate their photos all day every day so some of the -- you have set time limits and that's really hard thing to do but that's -- one how much time should it can be allowed to be on FaceBook -- social media not too much you know we've talked about your kids being younger my kids or teens you don't want to monitor for three or four hours today it's fine for them to check about where the latest event has or something like that.

But too much time in front of the screen is not healthy for kids and it's not healthy for the way they relate to other people often times.

-- age appropriate material that's really hard because there's a gray area a lot of -- -- some of this material how do you say son -- you can't have access to that well I'm not even go to a site like common sense that -- you can find out what is right for your kid and every parent needs to think about that but young people need to consider stuff because there's so much out there whether it's -- whether it's.

Inappropriate violence that's -- a lot of material on the -- that you can get you through FaceBook and other platforms -- you have to be concerned about -- -- common -- you can -- -- age appropriate applications for your iPad -- iPhone and those types of things on there you also -- unplug literally get the kids we talked about this on the show last week -- -- -- to -- -- kids for the summer to just unplug for at least a small amount of time that's a huge -- of -- talking back to FaceBook look.

You and I know that the best relationships and experiences in life are not in front of -- -- -- -- not -- there with other people -- outside in this incredible world -- eleven.

And you do need to unplug and for parents out there that such an important message I find this next point really fascinating -- can take us through just a little bit here learn their world.

You and I use text messages to communities in the quickly hey I'll be five minutes late to lunch.

They're using text messages in -- in a dialogue fashion much more different much differently than we yard.

That's right and you -- claim that's very important you have to do your homework we did not grow up with this you know when we were growing up there was no FaceBook or YouTube or ipads or iphones.

So it's different for parents but you have to embrace our world because the genie is out of a bottle -- mean we just not a FaceBook IPO it's not gonna go away right so here's the deal you have to use it.

And then you have to understand it and set some limits because.

Common sense parenting really matters and one big common sense thing if people don't do it it'll put a computer in the common room of the house to put up in the kids' rooms that's a huge mistake with the computer you say in a mean area right.

Well location location location the classic -- -- -- it's actually true for media a TV set Arab or computer should not -- better.

The challenge comes when you give your kids phones or they have say -- pat.

-- it so easy to go in Europe.

The point of it being in a common everything you as a parent have access to it and you can set your limits and your values so location doesn't really matter devices and at night.

You know phones keep kids -- they actually interfere with sleep -- of -- constant stimulation from tech's president so.

Don't let your kids go to bed -- -- cellphone a third of teens.

Text messages are checked after lights are supposed to be out so remember about it and out of the room put him in some common area James -- the book is called talking back to FaceBook a great read for parents thanks much for joining -- -- -- -- --