Ways to raise selfless teens who can inspire others
Dr. Keith Ablow weighs in
- Duration 6:02
- Date Jun 8, 2012
Dr. Keith Ablow weighs in
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Earlier this week we brought -- to inspiring stories of teenage girls making headlines for doing the right thing.
This Ohio tracks -- refused to leave a rival rider behind who would collapse.
Megan -- picked up that rival and helped her get to the finish line forcing her over the line ahead.
-- -- -- -- And then -- stormy rich.
A high schooler who got national attention for sticking up for a young girl with mental disabilities who is being bullied on the school bus -- got in trouble.
For standing up for the other student but said she had no regrets.
Which let us to ask.
How exactly does one raise a child like this.
Joining us now Fox -- medical eighteen -- doctor keep -- like doctor -- we got so much mail on these two young girls young girls.
Who stood up for others who were in need either someone who.
Who was mentally challenged and that the brunt of -- Borrow one who is literally physically too exhausted to finish a race and at sacrifice to her own ability to finish ahead of her.
-- but -- put this other girl first how what is it what's the mentality behind that.
Well what I'll say is this.
There will be some psychiatrist perhaps would tell you that people are born this way that your brain has a certain level of chemical messenger like serotonin that allows you to be present at such moments and that is just -- I don't think so I think people like Megan -- -- -- nurtured and in order to be that young woman or these young women you need to have.
-- empathize with your parents need to have shown you self sacrifice.
-- they need to have applauded you when you put others first.
These are learned behaviors.
That we -- seeing and applauding now which is good for everybody to -- by the way because we should elevate these things and that becomes contagious just as bad behavior can.
That is very interesting so in dealing with your own children it's not just a matter of saying to them be empathetic.
Protect it the week don't just be strong you have to be empathetic toward your child so they will learn it that's.
The key here in other words kids learn most by what they experience.
-- being nurtured.
Did they feel.
That they are strong enough to spare a little energy or courage for somebody else.
You know make it I've also evaluated people who have done horrible things people were killed others are attacked them.
In every case in which have evaluates its people those folks are made to they're not born and -- had horrific acts of lack of empathy shown them and it burns out their capacity to care for others.
This can be taught he should be taught in schools.
Home -- -- the situation with Megan -- helping that runner across the finish line she knew she would be disqualified under the rules if she helped another runner who by the way was not with her school she did it anyway.
To their credit they decided not to disqualify either girl so that it could kudos to them but she did not know that wondering -- there.
Her mother in -- was across the track when it was happening she couldn't see your daughter but a coaching friend sighed and reached over it looked governing and -- and said and look up at the screen and this is what she saw her own daughter doing it can't imagine feeling more proud as apparent as you watch that dot.
And you should feel proud because I would tell ms.
Vogel the mother here.
This is what you have -- you are reaping what you have -- this is no accident you did this.
What do you make of the fact that it's young girls I mean would I was grabbed back in the day you know the most of the heroes out there most of the people in movies and so on who would mean you know -- help -- -- didn't beat the one who saved the day where guys.
They want a -- -- -- role models like this.
Well -- why -- does make -- -- competitive athletes who were or were females.
Look I mean every mother.
Who sacrificed for her child.
Every sister look my sister stood up for me in the schoolyard.
Every sister who's done this for a brother.
This is something that's not gender base this is about courage is about compassion this is about being Smart because in fact.
It doesn't matter if you win that race that day what really matters is what kind of character are you hone -- night for the long run them.
Right I that's we talked about in -- case a stormy -- Who was on bus where they were bullying a mentally disabled child and she said she had complained to the school she complained of the bus driver they didn't do anything issue resolved she was a little older.
I'm not gonna let this happen again.
She knew she was gonna get in trouble if she did get in trouble she got banned from the school bus docket this were my child I'd say.
Net will find a way to get you to school -- have you do the same thing all over again -- -- -- listen -- stormy rich talking about the schools rational they relate only you know Q well that that the mentally -- challenge -- accomplishing a complaint listens stormy -- What kids it's boom goes in -- somebody.
They -- have friends.
That is sticking up for somebody why would you be -- trouble for doing that on neverland is happening anybody else I mean I know we keep seeing the world but it.
Police who did try to help you let go to -- hello.
That's her school.
-- and -- and I really want people.
To understand that in order to have a stormy rich on the face of the planet at her age.
She has to have been listened to when she complained to her parents -- this isn't fair they -- of center to a room or punished -- they have to have listened.
And sought to know who she was.
Otherwise she couldn't -- done that on this bus miracles unfold because we kindled the light in every child.
It's also easily extinguished but not in these two young women.
Well said doctor Abdullah thank you so much things my pleasure.
-- your thoughts on that.