Too sexy too soon?
Are kids growing up too fast?
- Duration 4:26
- Date Jun 9, 2012
Are kids growing up too fast?
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-- exact -- two young kids today are turning to make up racy song lyrics and gyrating dance moves revealing clothes.
I don't have to tell you about this if you're a parent it's all happening younger and younger.
So is -- parents can do to keep their kids from turning into pint sized adults joining us doctor Karen -- a family and child therapist and parenting expert doctor -- this morning thank you for having so it's a different scenarios that are are coming out and I can see these applying to a lot of families across the country they're watching TV either involved different music and they -- -- -- some of their favorite stars here's one scenario so your -- and I guess this is what thirteen fourteen years old.
Once to go to a Miley Cyrus -- dance party -- friend's house are gonna be dancing there there's going to be boys is going to be girls is gonna be gyrating deal let him go.
So the key is to discuss with them core values you really want explore with them being able to have a balance between.
What you are concerned about what they're concerned about and -- nowadays so another -- the answer is yes -- let them know you let them go with the caveat.
That you meet with the parents first find out what their involvement is going to be worth having that party discussed curfew with your child.
He discussed what they're wearing and what image they're trying to portray with a quote that there wearing because you're discussing the fact that there is an evolution.
That's been happening with many of these tween stars like Selena Gomez Lindsay Lohan.
And you discuss what image do you my dear daughter or son.
Want to portray with what you -- going to be -- their younger than that I think about my own daughters who loved to dance and wasn't imitating.
Sexy dance moves is there a danger to that if they're six and seven years old right so the key with -- -- to discuss.
What it is that they feel the images that they -- for trying so yes again this is a sign of the times.
These moves are acceptable times have changed dramatically.
If you discuss with your child what they think this is portraying how they're feeling as they -- doing these moves.
That's the -- keeping an open dialogue with your kids and map out what your concerns are and what they are feeling -- So the lyrics obviously racy but this is not new this is nothing new of course even Beatles lyrics could have been portrayed as -- -- racy but lady -- -- here's the scenario -- -- ten year old and says that a classmate explained some explicit lyrics.
Behind the Lady Gaga song how do you handle that as a parent.
Right discuss with your child the impact that this is having on them and take this is an opportunity to have a healthy discussion about like.
Healthy sexual in nature -- and parents might say well wait a minute my -- tenure away ten.
Absolutely because if you start opening up the window of opportunity to discuss it with them now remember they -- -- team they say hey what is discussing the lyrics of the song.
So they've opened up the window of opportunity for you to have that healthy sexual discussion with that here's a tough -- and it happened in my house yesterday.
Tell me my seven year old daughter's got a hold of some lip -- I'm not sure.
Are where they fired that -- put it on before school and they wanted to Wear make up the school my husband freaked out I say that it's in some ways.
I think that it's -- that wanna make a big deal a lot of this I don't really wanna focus on there.
There -- looks and everything are we supposed to say they can't Wear X or today they cat.
Right you know at that age I would say it's not a good idea where it and it's not to just -- on the -- that this -- -- -- you're not wearing make up.
It's rather discussing with -- young.
Daughter what it is Bob Gainey.
Feels the makeup does for defense and can be seen.
Look we without the -- cap and -- -- -- and dare character their personality their goals they're seeing your behavior is give them lots -- -- enforcement for that positive reinforcement.
So that's what makes them feel good and special instead of rather than make up that's important -- because little girls -- think about how they look so much but an -- -- was what mommy.
Now you you say you feel bad without the makeup on no.
-- -- -- -- And that's exactly why -- a month there has some mud there -- -- model sons and Reuters it's important check your attitude and talk with them about.
Your analysis of why you're wearing make up -- sometimes you do like sometimes you don't -- there can keep an open dialogue about what they're experiencing and your choices so that we they're not feeling I'll have to Wear makeup to look pretty good Bryant put the accept it young children what it's like to peel this off at.
It's I'm not ready to give -- doctor Karen Ruskin thanks so much for all that very time.