News anchor's story about emotional abuse
Christi Paul on breaking the cycle
- Duration 3:02
- Date Jun 18, 2012
Christi Paul on breaking the cycle
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Welcome -- about seven minutes before the hour on the surface it looked like she had it all together she had a happy marriage.
Job as a TV journalists -- famous.
You know TV journalist but behind the scenes her life was falling apart everything was not as it -- Joining us to CNN's headline news and in session news anchor and author of love isn't supposed to hurt Christy talks.
So good to finally be you know it's I guess I'm not happy that it's under the circumstance because you've written an incredible -- things I think it's gonna help a lot of what it.
But I don't WellPoint which is double click that what I mean it's it's an awful start that one that rings true of a lot of people including me I am amazed at how many people -- -- mind you men who contacted me and say I'm going to that's not gonna have ascended through -- this -- -- got married at it.
On your wedding -- things start to -- yeah yeah -- he'd said something.
And I wedding day you know cursing about the pictures that and that is my current husband by the way.
-- I think I could stand with my -- -- why do not name either way because you know like typing it tied entering the good guy just.
Not good situation at the time and then the variable.
Views kept escalating of the horrible name calling and -- By the time you're done you just feel so worthless and so hopeless and I hit a point where I realize I'm not going to be is not be welcome to the rest of my life like -- But could you shut down -- -- -- and -- -- take a chance and I realized you know what happened to you is an okay.
But it's not -- for you to let -- -- -- -- I ask you very quickly because it yet you wanna talk about how you got out of -- -- the support for -- to find out about that but.
When you say that she was verbally abusive you know.
Did it start incrementally with small insults and it started with -- -- that well.
And you didn't stop that you didn't know I -- I know I tried any you know I did that many times I tried everything and I I threatened to leave I wanted to go to counseling I told and that wasn't -- talking like that we.
Went to the whole -- it.
But because I was married.
I didn't feel like I could just leap I was married you know that would sacred to me and when I finally read somewhere with my counselor -- -- Big advocate -- if you go through something like this.
To hear somebody saying.
You had every right to leave if you're being treated like this with huge to me because when you're in that I don't think you realize the gravity of it for one you feel like you.
Are perpetuating like all I did something in -- blame yourself.
There's so many it's just a vicious cycle.
You have got -- you've got some great tips -- it we're gonna talk about that in the after the session but what is the one lesson that -- -- what message that you wanna get -- women who are watching us right -- who might be in an abusive relationship whether it's verbally emotionally mentally or physically or from a parent or spouse I know it doesn't just the it's not just missed basket from -- anybody that.
It's it's not okay what's happening to you but it's not okay that you that it -- because you were not -- to be -- And we we needed to get that and and you have to learn to forgive him for giving does not mean it's okay.
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