Don't hover, mother!
Dangers of helicopter parenting
- Duration 3:25
- Date Jul 8, 2012
Dangers of helicopter parenting
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The age of tiger moms and super bombs a new study reveals that being a helicopter mom meaning one who hovers over her children.
I have damaging effects to the health of both the mom and the child.
So should you be that extreme more on the opposite direction which is Allison.
Here to weigh in on this is clinical psychologist doctor Jeffrey guard -- nice to see it's great to see you both thank you so what about hovering over your children can lead to depression for the moms.
Well what this study found in working with about a 181 moms with -- children under the age of five.
Is that basically these -- spent so much time was so intensive.
In their parent into their children.
That not only did one in four of them not come up with some sort of a clinical depression that we sound at that the lives of the children were also miserable too.
The deceased parents just didn't allow these kids to be able to become independent and work things through whether academic -- Even nod their own emotions or interactions on their own -- -- I feel as though this generation of parents.
Are all helicopter parents we are so much more on top of our kids that all our parents work -- we drive then everywhere we monitor their every move.
We're afraid for their safety we watch their diet.
In me is that happening to an entire jet.
A ration of kids that don't have as much independence well I think necessity is the mother of invention in this case -- that I I think get the point that you're making here is.
Being a helicopter parent.
By itself is not such a bad thing.
Because our children need that guidance now there's so many other things happening in their lives and is well we know there -- a lot more dangerous for kids and we when we were growing up.
But I think it's the degree of parent and the degree of helicopter parent thing.
It's one thing to.
Advocate for your child into want the best for the child but it's a total other thing where.
Every experience -- your child has.
That you lot -- project yourself into that that you're part of that experience and it just does not allow the child to be able to work out issues on their own.
And become their own person impact these kids end up some of them being depressed and really anxious themselves.
And my -- for doesn't all lot of great research on the child child rearing all the book she says you know that the -- an important things is the sort of on watched -- -- just letting them figure stuff out trying to even in the -- -- that's really hard prepared if you're worried you hear some silence you wonder if they're gotten into electrical outlet or SpinRite so right -- right now.
But you've got to let him do that right what you have to let them do that because this is from the way that they start to explore the world.
On their own if you don't let them do that.
Then -- just don't develop the skills that they need.
To be able to get out there and make friends forget about the skills of the chopper made just for the moms themselves you can't live through your child and -- you need to develop sort of your own activities or as a say suggest you become depressed if everything is just about the child.
And you don't have a life outside of the child you living vicariously through that child.
Certainly that child will have disappointments but you'll have bigger disappointments because you keep them to this.
To the standard that is so high that no one can reach it and it's that whole idea of leaving.
A life of perfection.
Which is what brings on the stress because it's impossible to do that and that's what we're finding these mothers are becoming depressed.
And probably developing all sorts about the mental health or even physical issues that are related.
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