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While every parent wants their child to be successful with grades worthy of the best colleges.
And awards lining the man told.
One psychologist says our obsession with performance of perfection is pushing our kids to be breaking point she's challenging us to break those parenting -- -- -- Her new book is called teach your children well parenting.
For authentic success joining us now is best selling author doctor Madeleine.
-- good to see a doctor thank you Bob so we need to focus long term.
Not short term.
Why is that so important.
Because everybody is concerned everybody's anxious parents are anxious that have their kids are gonna do in this flat world terminated we have lot of competition.
The the concern is our kids want to well.
And everybody is afraid that if you don't give your kid a leg up in every way you can.
That they -- at every step of the way every step of the way the problem is a lot of those things don't work.
So what do you mean coming -- where we're in this very demographic you're talking -- we have young kids.
And we do think that they need to do their homework and they need to be good at some musical instrument.
And needed to be good at this sports and they need to X well but that's how they distinguish themselves otherwise but the reality is is that all those things you just listed.
Are at a sink develop mentally with how kids develop -- So I'm I'm sure that there's a whole bunch of the things you do with your kids besides push them but.
For example baby Einstein remember that was always hurts everybody had a baby I'm studying -- -- three house close right.
What do they find that -- it actually -- -- language acquisition.
Okay he's -- that you're increasing their IQ but putting -- in front of these videos it stimulate brain activity you're saying that had the opposite.
They don't stimulate brain activity but stimulates brain activity -- your kid looking at too late this and you go mum and the kid wants to please you it's not standing in front of and you have some tips this morning for parents to put this in action number want to see that shot in front of you recognize every child is different.
So I have three kids you can and should treat all of them different.
Absolutely I have three sons and -- ones analytic once created that once a hands on guy and but I think the problem in the country right now it is our view success is so narrow.
That the analytic -- the high performing kids.
Does really well but we're really so we we pressured those kids and we kind of marginalize kids with creative talents.
Other kinds of talents hands on towns -- got to expand the -- so more kids feel good about themselves invested his.
Not on the report card and that's nice to see today.
Don't let's do it to achieve and get -- break stick but.
But everything I'm saying -- -- focus on and having your child -- being part of the community do the dishes instead of five more minutes of studying.
Understand that out in the world now I'm down by Silicon Valley.
All really the young Turks of Silicon Valley.
Are saying kids have the skills but they don't have the -- they don't -- the grit they don't have the personnel that the perseverance they don't have.
The work ethic they expect to be you know -- then and given positions in three months before they've even gotten their hands dirty.
As we've written an all time that just -- it's quite.
We mentioned the other -- and -- -- and it would encourage successful failures let your kids fail it's okay if they make mistakes and don't over parents finally have a satisfying life of your and that's important if -- not happy.
You're probably not going to raise happy kids at a get a book is teach your children well -- living in such a Connie and I appreciate it.
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