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It's a lot Steve earlier this month has seen a hot and she walked into a Wisconsin courthouse begging for help she feared that are violent ex husband might kill her if she tried to move -- Are strange times and fortunately she was right shot and killed Xena and two other women last Sunday this line outside -- As many women asking if the -- can't protect them.
She'll carries an anchor for headline news and the board of directors for men stopping violence -- thanks for having me so we hear these stories at a time and time again in fact one reporter in Wisconsin actually went to look at how many restraining orders -- on record.
He was so surprised to see that it was the same messaging over and over I fear for my life -- fear for my life here from -- Why do you care.
Because if one woman is in danger all women and girls are in danger and that's why.
Also because this is a perfect example -- to -- violence is not a Stanley problem it is a community problem the second this story happened.
I was -- in my gut this was a domestic violence situation.
This is everybody's problem -- is not just the person's problem.
Down the street and you know something is happening in their home when you're not doing anything to help -- it's everybody's problem so you say that women going get restraining -- almost as sort of a situation to to honor their of their fears -- sort of a public message to others hey I need not only is it -- because unfortunately and I think you you probably know -- and -- you've done this kind of work.
Often women -- believed right so they almost have to do this to say I'm telling you.
How this person is treating me it is not okay and it's a public declaration of almost asking for help.
Because if they didn't get the restraining order -- among would say.
Why did you get -- restraining order right and so much of the blame falls on the woman when I did a lot of work on this -- a decade ago the question I was as what what does the woman just -- we'll see in this example in Wisconsin what happens.
When she did exactly.
A year on this board of directors of men stopping violence and one of the things they that you wanna -- and get out as a message.
Other men to help yes we want to shift the focus right it's very important to have shelters to help women when they -- -- -- right which are gonna continue.
To have that cycle of a winning beating -- shelters if you don't take a step back to prevent the violence in the first place right.
So we feel like a -- work with me.
And and and -- specifically -- abusers and that's not to say that all men -- abusers by any stretch of the imagination.
-- but if you if you focus in on getting men to call out other men feel like that makes a difference one of our trainers.
I'm with men stopping violence he teaches a class at the jail and often the last man.
Why do you do this why he repeatedly done this and -- question -- answer so many times -- is because I can't because no one ever call me out on this and made it clear.
I cannot do -- and we feel like if -- call out their friends.
This cycle would stop October is domestic violence awareness month as well.
One in three women in the US have experienced some type of violent.
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