The conversation that changed Larry Elder's life
Radio host pens new book
- Duration 3:40
- Date Nov 12, 2012
Radio host pens new book
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Thank you Brian while most may think that nothing -- -- ten year old feud between father and son turns out that's not the case for one man it was an eight hour conversation.
They changed his perspective turning his dad from an over into an inspiration.
The story is all in nationally syndicated radio host Larry -- brand new book to your father to your son and that's my -- -- great to see you again marries into long.
You say that this book is an apology to your father why when my father and I.
Had this huge fight over something in retrospect was it pretty minor when I was fifteen years -- we not have a meaningful conversation for ten years.
So I begin to bother me Gretchen and I finally sat down with my dad in fort.
Eight hours from 230 to 1030 we talked and I unload -- I -- -- myself a could be calm I was not talk about the -- -- the beatings the yelling the screaming.
The the tipper that he -- vehicles are deceiving volcano walking around.
And sat down with him I started out very calm and I and loaded on it.
And I found out all sorts of things about him I never knew I found that my father did not know with biological father demanding elder was in his life the longest never married his his mom.
He was an alcoholic who beat him and his mom my dad had a fight with her then boyfriend when he was thirteen years old.
Was kicked out of the house never to return we're talking about a black man.
Jim Crow south during the Great Depression.
And so you actually say you make the analogy about a tiger -- -- said hey forget about tiger mom I had a junkyard dog dad right my you came to understand him war.
But looking to respect him as well because he held two jobs and he was just trying to bring home and -- finances for the fans.
When you're a little kid you don't realize what's going on all you know is your dad is angry and irritable all the time I didn't realize -- working two full time job to the janitor.
Cook for famine in the weekend with -- school to next week to get his ged because he always felt insecure he'd have more education.
And that's why my father was so cold and so angry you average for a half hours of sleep for 101215.
-- see how you feel wretched.
Kinda kind of parallel definitely up but who is this book for because some people saying well this is a story about you personally with your father -- -- have a really important message here.
The book is for anybody that's has a junkyard dog -- like my dad my dad -- -- World War II marine.
-- a joint when he was in his late twenties the -- on the island of Guam came back couldn't get a job as a cook because he was told in the south where he was from.
We don't hire any in words comes to California where he visited a few years ago -- was going to be a little bit better.
And -- from restaurant restaurant to get his job when he was told I'm sorry sir you have no references he then worked two full time job the janitors and it's because he and my mom believed.
That was important for her to stay at home while he raised three boys so they did so -- my dad's.
It come as a janitor and that he saved up enough nickel and dime which in the started cafe in his late forties that's we have the fight all of this used to work for him my Brothers and me.
And when -- fifteen we have this huge fight and we didn't speak for tickets at the message you -- to give to people insist they grow up in a similar situation.
What should they take away first of all BB.
The appreciative that you have a father in your life even if he's a difficult junkyard dog like my dad secondly it's never too late to sit down with relatives I've told his book about this book about my friends female and and -- And my female friends also tell me they had difficult relationship with their fathers and one time they sat down and -- it -- out.
I guess the message is sit down don't assume.
Bad things and somebody of his mind without seeing them talking to them don't waste all those years.
And when I've told this to people when they read the book rich and people have -- particular phone reached out to their fathers or mothers -- hands.
Daughters have reached out to their fathers as well.
It's very inspirational with a lot of messaging in their Larry Elder it's your father to your son thanks much -- he'll have a appreciate it.