How do families cope with mass shooting?
Dr. Keith Ablow weighs in
- Duration 6:14
- Date Dec 14, 2012
Dr. Keith Ablow weighs in
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Turning out important guest to this broadcast has doctor keep -- -- as a psychiatrist and a member of our Fox News medical eighteen joins me via Skype and we took -- via Skype dot because we really need to hear from you today.
I think everybody out there is feeling.
Just concerted sad.
Wondering if this is the society we live and feeling for those parents and those little children.
-- helped put it in any sort of perspective for us.
Well as to the fear Megan and the shock.
I understand because the Red Line beyond which it seemed even the breeze and or unhinged among us would not move keeps shifting.
This now kindergartners.
Perhaps a classroom of them.
There unaccounted for.
And -- this kind of -- group registers with people in yet another way because it seems like the unthinkable.
Keeps moving into this fear of our reality.
I think people have to reach out to their kids.
You have to tell them this is still.
In terms of the probability of him of -- visiting them extraordinarily.
Rare and yet they should also tell them.
That these things don't come out of boogie men that these are sick depraved people.
And that there are ways that they can be identified sooner and that we're gonna work to find those ways and then we should work to rebuild -- mental health care system because I'll tell you.
In the end there will be things that this person said to folks.
There will be.
Things that people shake their heads and -- -- how did they not.
Done that but we're really not prepared to act on that because their system.
In the mental health care arena is is no.
Full of holes so fragment -- so fragile so underfunded.
I think this should be a wake up call to rebuild that and then we should let kids help.
Other kids we should give them something to do with -- -- and their fear to reach out.
To these other families and -- these other kids and do something to try to reassure them and show -- they care.
Track to channel their their feelings and try to empower them and in some way.
You talk about the red lines and that's that's well put you even though you know there's depravity and there's evil in this society you like to believe that there are lines that.
Just don't get crossed.
And -- and yet is there reason to believe that I mean.
A sociopath has no empathy has it -- -- it there's no feeling at all for the victims and so.
-- the real question to you is.
Why have what have they're not that more things like this in the past and what is making them seem to come out now.
Well you know you and I've spoken about this before both on and off the year and I fear the our level of empathy just as a culture as a society.
Is being diminished.
By things like reality TV and light FaceBook.
It seemed -- -- -- people to a kind of fictional realm I guess you could add gaming to that computer games.
Such that I think.
Now people feel less for one another they can think of them almost as third parties or entertainment figures are animated creatures.
And for that people among us who were vulnerable.
To acts of violence who are violently deal if you will.
That means that they can consider others even less than ever before sewage in general -- of -- -- to resonate with each other's feelings is being reduced as I believe it is.
-- the total liars are that much less able to steal anything and that red line will keep shifting.
And sadly precedent is a terrible thing.
For people who were inclined toward violence because what it does as it moves the bar and so once you've had one shooting -- into kindergarten.
And I hate to even say it and -- as a scientist I know.
There can be others.
And yet people have to remember what you said at the top which is very true and that is statistically the odds of something like this happening to your child or your family are infinitesimal I mean think of the number of students who go to school every day and have.
For decades in this country in the number of times such a tragedy is this.
Has unfold and I do want to ask you.
If there's any.
If there's any way of moving forward for these families everyone here is feeling for -- -- -- for the families of all 26 dead.
That's the number now 26 dead were being told 27 total if you count the gunman.
Eighteen of whom worked our children I know you say give the children something you try to -- -- but.
You to the mothers and fathers in the Brothers and sisters of those eighteen children.
I mean I just don't know how you would wake up tomorrow and have your breakfast and function in this world.
Well that's the best thing by the -- Megan that you could tell them and that's what I would tell them in this office I cannot fathom the depth of your grief.
I give you credit for your courage.
I think that somewhere.
Out of you -- incredible wound.
Extraordinary sensitivity such that you would be an incredible -- -- to other people in life and yet I hesitate to even ask that you know and how much you're suffering and yet I know that that's possible for you but I don't pretend to know everything you're feeling and I invite you to tell him.
Please tell me because silence is the enemy of healing here.
You know -- -- will have seventeen other families of children.
To comfort them.
And you know that group -- that is not to diminish there -- reports of the of the deceased adults who have families and you heard.
That one -- testimonial about this principle young and vibrant young woman.
And that -- -- intensity adults and the victims get overlooked in the situation whether mass casualties with children but.
Each loss is profound and you know the odds are those parent with those instead adults had families to.
I don't please don't go away doctors we need you when you do this --