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Coping with the tragedy of losing a child

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    Beth Nimmo, mother of a Columbine victim, weighs in

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Well it's hard -- any parent to imagine what the moms and dads of victims in Connecticut at school -- going through right now but our next guest understands their.

Position in their pain all too well.

That memo.

Lost her daughter -- -- -- in the Columbine shooting now in Colorado -- and Craig witnessed the tragedy cancer survivor and she joins us this morning from.

Denver good morning to you that.

Good morning you know it it's hard for us looking -- to imagine what those parents are are going through.

You know we just heard from our correspondent they've apparently set up of a makeshift morgue and now the parents are starting to identify their children.

-- pictures.

You went through this a number of years ago and didn't what's what what -- what are they going through.

Well that that time wounded.

Of waiting is.

There's mixed feelings you you have some hope and yet there's this impending doom that because you haven't heard from your child it.

There's no news about -- that the worst is to be expected to address it took exactly 24 hours from my late -- passed away -- Two.

Yet get a call from the corner we didn't we didn't identify that they identified her through send fingerprints that I had made -- as.

My kids were little children and then she was -- -- that way.

And just the waiting do you say that it took you 24 hours they and they know.

You know all the other parents were reunited with their children they know what happened to them and yet they've got to await formal word.

Yeah.

-- -- that was the hardest part for us we were.

Told that evening to go home and that no more information was forthcoming and that was just about the coolest thing we could have been told at that point in time.

-- if -- weren't releasing names of victims but there were students that had seen Rachel's body.

And so we were getting reports from them even though wasn't verified by that authorities.

And so it was it was just a horrible night you know very sleepless night which I'm sure.

Most of these parents experience the same thing it's just this is saddest thing.

-- -- there yet we want to hold on to hope that in your mind you know that it's gone.

-- I understand you told one of our producers that the parents of the children who were lost yesterday.

They're not gonna know it had him for a while.

They won't.

I I believe it was well into a year before I could grasp.

What really happened.

The grief and the pain.

Is so it.

Tremendous it's it's so it's like your breath is taken away you heart's racing and you can't believe you can't thing.

And so sometimes -- -- serve real situation.

And it comes and goes.

Sometimes it's real and sometimes it's it's like just a living nightmare and you think you can wake -- for the next day it's gonna be better.

And -- it takes a long time I think for.

For -- to understand.

The reality of what happened and and really be able to deal with the reality rather than all about.

That's superficial that's going on right now you know.

Is so much.

Is a lot of media there's a lot of talk and it takes a long time -- to figure out what was real and -- wasn't.

And I know we've.

She and I were just talking during the commercial break and I know that you -- in that particular issue you blame my Klebold and Harris.

There's the young men who took your daughter's lives in the lives of so many others out there they were evil incarnate on earth and you were angry for awhile.

But you're not angry anymore how long did it take you to get to that stage.

It it took quite awhile one of the things that -- was that -- We were able to do some don't.

About.

Rachel's writings and journals and drawings that she left behind and that kind of gave us a platform.

To start school programs and a do a lot of speaking.

To look at the good that come out of it that was a very healing point and once we saw that we've been able to put things in a better perspective.

You know I don't I don't believe it was Rachel's -- it died that she dead and as a result.

We where we were just able to move forward and turn -- and so people.

Into good and that brought a lot of healing and that also.

Help to deal with that anger and the frustration of losing her.

But I still had to deal with Craig who was extremely traumatized.

-- From PT SD for a long time.

And my concern was that would have to combat kind Columbine victims one.

From the shooting and -- some emotional cripple sure you know.

-- living day in day -- out what he experienced is so.

It took him almost two years or so before I saw him turn a corner and become a regular teenager again -- start.

Rebuilding his life which is dead and a very powerful way now we'll.

You give very powerful witness to what happened to the parents there and we know that yesterday reopened all of those fed members of -- -- So -- memo we thank you very much for joining us today to share your stories.

From Colorado think he's.

Thank you for having me you --

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