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In the aftermath math of the tragedy in new town friends of the gunman's mother Nancy -- up.
Are telling the world about the challenges she says she faced raising her son.
And one of them is opening up about the common bond that brought this man and mrs.
-- -- together as friends.
And what kind of things did she tell you about her side.
-- he would get upset because.
Refusal that are Todd Pletcher she she couldn't -- him.
Where my -- just the opposite you know she'd see myself -- hanging all over me and what you know autistic kids the each and every one of them is different.
And you said that there -- different things that -- tried to do because she had a hard time bonding with him.
Yes she was trying to bond quite -- ways to bond with -- you know she told me that the guns and you know she would take him shooting.
Because that was a way that it's you know a single mom.
-- you know.
Relate to her son and so she would take him to shoot.
And was that something -- They did.
Multiple times is that something that she found wasn't easy way for them to bond together or was something that she -- try.
I think it was relatively new.
What you know -- and it's something that I think he enjoyed in in so she you know she used the opportunity.
To do with them you know so that should have some quality time -- Joining me now Rebecca -- that she's director of communications for the Elizabeth -- center for autism law and advocacy and she's the mother of an autistic boy.
John Gilmore is the executive director of the autism action network also the parent of an autistic child.
Michael John Carly is the executive director of grass the global and regional Asperger's syndrome partnership who has a child with Asperger's.
And doctor Robert -- is the co-founder of brain balance centers which looks at all disorders on the -- on the autism spectrum.
Thank you all so much for being here you don't appreciate.
Let me start -- you Rebecca -- There's a piece posted online and an idea looked at this but it's called I -- Adam -- mother and it is is written by a woman who says it's obviously written by his mother but she talks about how she has a son.
Who terrifies her.
And that we don't know what's wrong with him she says autism spectrum ADHD oppositional defiant in the remainder intermittent explosive disorder.
She basically says she's afraid of her son she doesn't know exactly they don't know exactly was wrong with him she doesn't feel that there is -- a place right now.
To get the right help.
The sentences the services your thoughts my thoughts are.
They're semi coma big situations in some of these -- with with autism.
Anybody that co morbid homeland it means you -- have.
-- -- -- you can have.
ADHD you have oppositional -- to -- And kids on the spectrum look very different -- I could not had written that article because my son is not.
It does not have -- -- and does not is not -- and I signed it probably could have but -- we were able to access -- services very young.
And he got there is those impulses.
Under control and what we don't know right now.
Is and that's it information about what pat him what was going on -- services.
We don't even know truly what is correct diagnoses -- And and I was emphasized that where we're talking about this at all because.
The the brother Ryan -- reportedly to the police that his brother suffered from.
Was on the it was on the autism spectrum and the agency he reportedly use the word.
Asperger's is just sort of it's considered running up his inspector of the media from much longer in any event.
So many people -- -- -- but -- over one point five million have Asperger's or have autism in this country.
99.9 percent and committed no crime no violent crime correct should we -- talking about this.
Yes I think we should because -- and I think we've ignored these problems for too long so.
Although this is an unfortunate situation it's bringing up a good opportunity to talk about something that I think has been ignored by this country for way too long we've been.
Spending so much time talking about politics and the economy and we've forgotten about our children were -- literally seeing an epidemic of these issues.
In the United States right now and he's a neurological problems and well he's on mental illnesses autism spectrum is not -- -- mental illness right now it's -- neurological problem and in many ways you know it it can be prevented it can be treated effectively but.
Most kids I don't think or are getting the proper resources that they need and I think that you know it's it's possible to conceive -- that this could have been prevented.
On Gilmore they said that this mom Nancy struggled with what to do with her son and and decided to home school him for some period of time because she didn't feel like she's getting.
The support she needed on like Rebecca.
She was not as supported as she needed to be that seems to be -- clear to us when you what are your thoughts.
Well actually not unusual for people who have -- will go to inspection to -- school of the public schools aren't really equipped to provide appropriate -- her education.
Four children with autism but it seems like you with this case -- talking about younger -- when they get to.
They're Twitter users a complete evaporation of services that because they've got to the school system -- years there's been support and now suddenly it's -- that's right and funerals of those that.
We talk about her virtues of the data thus -- and stop showing up.
What do you do that you and what's the general consensus on that.
Well a lot of fear he and you all these for some of us were were trying to do as much as we -- to sort of improve the situation.
Hear what we're gonna do.
Struck me about this though.
It I think economist characterizes people on the opposite spectrum if he wasn't it is -- temperature for -- -- -- sure you know.
Oh another unconfirmed report was that he was taking a very powerful.
Anti psychotic drug.
Fair and offended that I believe it's called -- -- that would seem to indicate which is not recommended for autism -- Asperger's.
So that would seem to indicate there's other issues going a little attention from what's happened.
Michael -- Your -- -- that and then reports about the guns being in the home I mean I don't wanna make -- a gun discussion but you know the mother made the choice she was a gun enthusiasts which you know that's legal in this country but.
Is there it is their need for a heightened concern of keeping that kind of weapon in a house in your view.
With with a child that's on the autism spectrum or forget that has just had these type of mental issues in their past.
We'll just focusing on the win the autism spectrum aspect of it I would say no it's not necessarily going to play a role in whether or not the child is going to use those guns necessarily.
Folks on the spectrum such as myself such as my -- such as grass members.
-- were very into rules you know we don't like ambiguity too much we don't like you know.
Uncertainty in life the world is confusing enough sometimes so.
Rules and regulations they're kind of like safety -- you know we appreciate them because then everything is clear.
So you know usually on the spectrum you're gonna see more.
Preponderance for an individual obeying the law may be a little bit too much.
Rather than disobeying the law back -- little what are the options for a mother like this -- For you know whenever his issue -- You know could extremely withdrawn extremely intelligent.
But growing more and more troubled in recent years according to the reports all of which remains -- confirm what we need to get this out -- has already.
The discussion about these things is out there.
What what are the options for such a mother.
-- There are options out there -- other than just throwing medication and kids which really and may or may not be appropriate but.
It's not the long term answer we know that there are centers like what we have bring balance centers which are out there.
There are behavioral we have had a child tested and it diagnosis and meaningful diagnosis back or we're where we can work with the problem it's not about just labeling because everybody is different every child is different.
Everybody with Asperger's different.
They may follow the rules but then there may be others that have no sympathy that really don't feel.
Much in the way of paying the war compassion in.
And may be prone to anger and -- so there are all different types what is the underlying problem -- -- saying there are neurological and balances.
And we can deal with these with multi mode -- treatments different therapists occupational therapy physical therapy behavioral therapy nutrition.
All of that is very very important is a lot of options out and get out.
First I mean you can just because it is child has outbursts at who who is on the autism spectrum doesn't mean anything about whether any violent it can just -- -- you know they can have out first because that you took -- -- -- -- -- you take it.
I -- the spectrum is in general it's -- communication disorder.
And therefore if you're trying to communicate something and you don't know how it's going to be presented in a very different way and that may resonate to somebody that doesn't understand -- -- -- as -- -- Rebecca your thoughts that on the message we need to take away from us the message we need to take -- from this I I I feel horrible about -- situation.
I think the reason my -- got the services he needed was because that I was tenacious my hats and I hired an attorney to make sure he got -- services he needed.
I know that most of their parents out there can't do that that they can I get -- industry advocates and just to not stop.
Get every single thing you can't for your children -- -- -- it seems like -- never happen.
You -- be a mother warrior father warrior thank you all will post more on a website foxnews.com.
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