Harmless sibling rivalry? Think again
Dr. Marc Siegel explains
- Duration 3:47
- Date Dec 23, 2012
Dr. Marc Siegel explains
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My parents listen up remember this scene from the Brady Bunch yeah.
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Marcia Marcia Marcia is that just harmless sibling rivalry -- thinking get it turns out the feuding siblings are at risk for things like anxiety and depression.
Doctor Mark Siegel from our fox is medically team is here with more on this stock nice to see -- this morning.
So this -- I think I.
A little troubling because obviously we see would make fun of any kids it is only sibling rivalry right picked -- my sister she picked on me.
But maybe something deeper is going on here.
-- full disclosure I would have to be disqualified as a researcher here -- first of all look forward my sister.
Secondly all three of my kids -- out war with each other so I couldn't be objective news on the -- -- was -- good 150 pairs of siblings were studied -- 152.
-- you haven't -- ever fights with their siblings and isn't this just par for the course and what what makes us think now that something that would lead to depression anxiety well well but the study is about the.
Impact of that in in teens twelve to fifteen and they were studied over a year from University of Missouri and they were found that a year later.
If they violated personal space if they didn't give you your room give you your own video game if it's one sibling was intruding on another's personal space.
The result was increased anxiety and depression so the implication is let the person have the room -- the person have their space what.
Now middle children by the way I think have a -- -- -- to -- where at the space is that not the oldest they're not the youngest so their strategy.
Got the roles so if you've got three kids the middle kid ends up not being the youngest anymore -- not the oldest anymore and then therefore -- had become a yeah anxiety ties and depressed we actually have some risks of these depression put up on the screen so arguments about.
Fairness have been linked to depression -- -- suffered -- but that's that's important so another words the arguments about.
Mommy lets you do this that she doesn't let me do this why did daddy give you that and not -- that is what turns into depression later.
That's what this study is saying of course it only looks it.
It over one year and the thing that's lacking in this study of the brain hormones I wanna know is -- the happy hormone that's going down -- the stress hormones that are talk about all the time.
Are those increased cause that's what causes depression.
If you war and your bad hormones go up and you get anxious and you get depressed you have a long term problem I also wanna know what the risk of social media here is -- could I think things have changed.
I mean my kids sit there they text each other there on FaceBook all day long that -- listening to me at all.
And the study shows that parents can intervene any more parents can't say okay.
Stick to your room that they don't help Sarah and I wish I could help but it doesn't look like -- make a difference at all.
Also these belongings -- -- arguments about belongings linked to anxiety.
But that seems kind of obvious but here's what's troubling because we're talking about twelve Urals but I feel like there's got to be some earlier assessment of this right of -- two in three years old.
And this is all happening before you get to twelve Missouri way for parents to sort and you know stop this.
-- I think that's an excellent point I think the studies showing by the time you're twelve or fifteen.
Parents can't do anything but I think role modeling is the key thing when you have a young child.
If you're fighting they're gonna fight.
If you don't observe boundaries there have been observed boundaries I'd like to go back to some old fashioned values here let's have the family meal.
You know let's have timeouts when.
Kids get really anxious I think once they -- -- certain boundaries and then my sister and -- warring over the center of the room.
We shared a room but we couldn't figure out where the line was down and it'll show and that's the problem now.
-- well doctor Marc Siegel we always listen to you I'm sorry your children don't it sounds like we have another segment coming up where we can give you would tell them that Al tell them to listen little singles so darn good listening very rights that.