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We hear about it happening time.
After time high powered.
People would videos.
Acting on their emotions and making mistakes that derail their status -- career.
My next guest says that making bad choices based on -- is is not just exclusive to people in power it could happen to anyone including you.
He writes about in his new book your color emotions the seven steps to mastering the toxic emotions urges and impulses.
It's sabotage -- would you please welcome Ken -- Ken good -- Good okay.
How many people in public life.
This past year David Petraeus before that Anthony Weiner we've seen people like Eliot Spitzer people in high places Bill Clinton and others.
Who made very very foolish decisions in these are Smart Smart people.
Why they -- Well first of all.
I've been counseling people for over thirty years governor to make great life choices and one thing I've learned this when you let your emotions whether it's sadness anger resentment.
Or your urges.
Over power your best judgment your reasoning process as you can make self sabotaging decisions so when you think about.
David Petraeus or Eliot Spitzer.
Or maybe the people that you just mentioned.
They did not consider the consequences.
Of -- -- maybe if they had they would not have done what they did.
But they let those urges their emotions just sabotage but this didn't just about people.
Who were celebrities are not -- -- were in high places -- just.
People -- foolish decisions based on their impulses and -- absolutely were quick fix society as a talk about your killer emotions often times.
When we're angry when were enraged when we're sad when we feel hopeless.
We just want to get a quick fix we want to do something -- to make us feel better for oftentimes.
Those quick fix decisions are counter to what we really want in our lives.
And that is really really destructive so what's the key how how to -- Controlled.
The feelings the urges the emotions that can really trip you up and kitchen and -- -- well in my book.
There -- seven steps -- let me get a few tips OK 11.
You never want to make a life choice when you were angry when your stressed when you -- hurt.
Take some time relax.
Think about it overnight.
To you always want to know what you want to get out of an interaction.
Out of the decision.
Every political figure needs to know what they want to keep whatever it is their agenda going whatever that is you need to know what you want.
You need to also.
As I said earlier be consequence.
Think about either the most heinous consequences.
Of -- -- David Petraeus you can lose your career you risk your marriage all of that.
But also think about the very positive consequences.
Of what you can do as well.
That will lead you to make a great decision.
And being consequence cognizant when you talk about the heinous.
That will hopefully for clue -- from making a destructive like choice.
Can how important is it to have accountability within the human beings said that there's somebody who sort of -- -- off.
On the way to we are reacting and what we're doing is that an important part of protecting ourselves absolutely but I really feel.
It's self generated you need to identify that there is a flaw that has been going on.
That you've been making bad life choices you take the cigarette you take the -- you go back to the bad girl the bad guy.
You let somebody push your emotional buttons either in your family or -- the workplace you need to identify it.
And then you need to think about a better life choice which you can prepare.
Before you actually have to make that life choice so hopefully you you can visualize what is he wanted to and then acted out at crunch time.
Well I hope it's something people will take note up they need to -- protect themselves and the best way to do it is just not make a lot of emotional.
And snap decisions.
Can -- thank you very much straight to -- here be here thank you.
And we'll they.
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