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-- -- A new survey of college student seems to suggest that today's young people believed they are the greatest.
Not the first type of college surveys suggest that but the numbers in this particular research.
Show what we -- told is a surging sense of self worth and guess what the survey also shows.
It may not be well founded.
During now to discuss -- list earn parenting blogger and author Jason Dorsey Generation Y.
And author of why size your business doctor Henry cloud psychologist.
And the author of boundaries for leaders so this is fascinating they've been doing this survey since 1966.
And apparently this year's survey shows an unprecedented.
Level of self infatuation.
And it it is it well founded I love this part.
That there is a disconnect between -- students' opinions of themselves and their actual all ability.
You know it's what a singularly feel like you needed the researchers to tell you if you know anybody who is in this age group right now but what is really going on your list I'll start with you.
-- -- I think what's happening at that these children truly have a sense of entitlement these days and it's -- parents opportunity and a parent's responsibility.
To start at home -- an early age teaching their children that hard work.
Will pay off in the end however you need to do that hard work in the beginning because it.
-- -- doesn't just by Ngo it just doesn't happen for you need to start at a young age practicing and teaching your children.
That everything doesn't just happen to you are content to you and my -- my.
You work hard and you don't get great results but these children seem to believe that they are getting great results even if they don't work hard in fact the survey spoke to the fact that they actually.
Some of them may be a little bit lazy and yet they don't see themselves as lazy I mean.
You work as hard as you want and you still might need -- -- Jason you tell me to see done is say.
Yeah do that well you gotta you gotta try harder we get it -- getting into her classes but yet you're actually not -- to think you are.
Yeah I think there's actually as well intentioned point but it's kind of backwards I mean.
What got us in the situation our our parents they are the ones who say investigate must surrender and they gave us a trophy they told us were great.
And then those of us that went to college or parents are helping us out they say as long -- there will help you.
You know just finish -- -- 80% of us graduate and move home and our parents take us back.
So the missing point here is that we have been taught to connect.
Effort with outcome and to think that it's just gonna suddenly change I -- wake -- and are so I want to put the hard work.
Not gonna happen I think my generation fortunately -- -- for a very rude wake up call when we -- go out there and eventually hit the real.
I just I think it's not letting go ahead let's get it quickly -- growing up.
I always had to work I always -- had the job that was instilled in me from a very early age.
My parent you know we have -- -- low lists OK employment right now ever it's summer -- aren't you the -- and their other Donald.
-- -- let me know they can't know what else they have it on out we have now is is it Jason serve alludes to this doctor cloud is.
You know losers -- in places still winning.
Which is such total BS no it isn't the only one person wins the race as I try to explain my son to my son who's who's writing me what I can do you know I thank you name it early and I -- that -- -- -- winner.
I tire moms -- where the tire amounts when we need -- look.
Here's the whole -- kids feel good about themselves because they're -- to be confident and because their -- there's an old saying dead.
Immature people ask for life to meet their demands mature people meet the demands of life and so -- Jason I don't know you know where it came from about this in his enabling home.
But ultimately the big story here.
Is that their self appraisal is higher then.
The appraisal of the people around them and whenever you get that disconnect you gotta get him -- a dialogue which is where I think you would have a major major plays here.
To talk to the generation about learning that you've got to serve your stakeholders and make them as happy with you -- you are what I.
I think you know tiger and that I didn't doesn't speak it let me ask his -- to this point because.
If they say you know in terms of your parents in and what they tell you mean all parents want -- say yelling in your so Smart or good job -- anyone -- build your child's confidence.
Not too much I guess I don't have these students are much more likely to call themselves gifted in particular in -- writing abilities.
But it turns out they have far less reading abilities and those of their ninety at a -- outer markets and -- -- felt like that that -- does.
-- That I think are missing one -- I find it.
You know I agree with you doctor completely but it is ironic that the group that's now going what happened to these kids happens we are parents are saying that.
You know if you look at where that came from exactly what you said -- and -- Yeah -- your grade and here's a riveting here's a trophy at the same parents are going -- what happened that I don't know -- a -- thanks for showing up same got this puzzle piece that I think you know we we gloss over.
The other part is is your exactly right -- -- -- -- Hello Jason what what does somebody do with that if they're 25.
It you say well you know your parents aren't you expect things so so what now -- -- really are going to expect things and what we've got to do and I see this as a leadership consultant.
In companies what I help.
Leaders do is try to understand how to bridge that gap.
And sent them all down and and connect and saying look we love you -- for you but that also takes some results on your part we're going to be in a dial.
Elena -- senator Allen has got -- other point list which they say that these these kids may work less but the number who say they have a drive to succeed is much higher.
So they they really want to succeed but -- -- out.
Our current I hear that -- they really -- -- work hard and they really want to succeed let the it because I have in turn that -- me all the time now what -- work.
But they want to tell me they are our as they wanna tell me how much they -- to get me off to work at that in -- how much I should be.
Beating them for lunch how much it's gonna clots what -- transportation costs are I can't help but when I was an intern and I in turn everything all summer -- -- I never got paid I worked overtime I never thought asked for any day.
I think there's just a disconnect here today with what is there -- he -- are now and that.
Yeah -- -- out Scottish club for this I want you can't do three interns anymore.
That comment and said you cannot do that you've got to pay them money people are getting.
Audited left and about -- RS for that so so that's gone but the other party as he spoke to -- he said exactly of what is normal.
Will normal what's been conditioned as the fact that it's going to be a different type eventually do the work force you out I got great grades -- going to be a manager -- I think that's ridiculous.
But the reality is thank our generation is entering entering the workforce later than ever before since -- keeping records for graduate from college and later than ever before.
Getting married having -- All of the traditional markers that said you on adult have been pushed back so when we look at -- and -- cash or eighteen or 2125.
You should know better.
The -- is actually that we may not.
I'm not defend life and I'm not saying it's right well as saying that as a person.
I kind of brilliant I can't relate to -- their way about -- and I didn't really what I what I what I lately let me just and then I gave us -- doctor -- When I -- to John today there was a there was a young lawyer who came in this is when I was more senior.
And I said hey I like to work on his case only were coming -- his briefing he said.
-- -- -- -- -- happy place with respect to my workload right now so I really can't help you out yeah at get unhappy and we're going to be mean -- unhappy very -- doctor clouded the last -- -- there's a simple formula here's what's required.
And here's what you gotta do to step up to make everybody happy if you don't want to be happy -- that workload.
They have been working somewhere else -- parents and companies have to have requirements and help people may want to -- Red Hat but I -- -- -- final anecdote my mom -- for you know it famous for her frankness with all three of us.
I sit -- and as I don't later my teens eat mumble was really Smart in school growing up she does you about -- -- it.
Out oddest thing.
That's how we need protect you sit her paycheck I I don't coming zealots and you.
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