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With friends could be giving you high blood pressure and stress as well our next guest says it's time to dump bump and it's all part of Carlin Florence new book.
Friend -- let's.
The surprising ways friends to make us who we are good morning -- -- good morning -- So the interesting way in which we live now people marry a little bit later in life and so.
So much wore an important part of their single -- may be in their twenties and even into their third.
It's right exactly so so people are delaying marriage a lot of people are not getting married at all.
And then a lot of older people.
Are single and living alone more people -- living alone than ever before so all of these factors.
Sort of converged to make friends a lot more important in the and they know for friends wiping you out -- building -- Reagan question.
So if -- -- -- -- -- supportive human really supports your core identity and who you are and where you're going in there a good friend.
And some friends we call them you know ambivalent friends so they have some good qualities but they also.
Maybe put this down undermine us and -- us -- and these friends that literally can raise our blood pressure and and and cause stress.
Chris -- -- OK -- take a look at some of that you're hanging on to a childhood friendship -- ambivalent toward the procedures management.
They push your buttons so what you're saying is there aren't we have good friends and -- friends and if the bad friends are pushing your buttons and causing a stress you need to help.
-- dumping is only in an extreme case do you want to break up with a friend but what what I don't ministry and -- -- -- in case would be.
If they they really and they really are not supportive at all I think you know when it's when it's time to really cut -- a friendship affect can be really painful so what I recommend this.
Backing away from those negative influences.
And building friendships -- more positive influence because you say that the influences do rub off on you positive or negative.
For example if a friend is jealous which often comes up and friendships -- your advice is to actually.
Tell the person that you're jealous of them and I think that can be really helpful appear dishonest and say you know you're you're getting married and -- I wish I were getting married or you're getting this progression and god I wish -- were doing better my career and then your friend can say you know can really can -- give you some honest feedback about how you -- Meet that courageous humanize this for a second that's where I feel like bill -- jealous of me and -- -- That friendship maybe I should tell them little -- luckily -- separated by twelve hours yeah.
-- -- agencies that you can read all about it in for influence these surprising ways friends -- -- -- -- -- we are Carlin floor real pleasure thank you spend.
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