Control the chaos: Secrets of happy families
Author reveals bold new blueprint
- Duration 2:54
- Date Feb 20, 2013
Author reveals bold new blueprint
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Welcome back do family dinners a year house erupt into arguments over our texting over there.
Or whining about things are bad manners.
It's possible you may need to forget everything you think you know about traditional family habits and embrace perhaps the opposite is right now is best selling author.
Of a brand new book it's called the secrets of happy -- Bruce filer folks you're gonna want to get this book.
Nicely with -- -- we've got some tips the first one how many times have you heard the experts on Dr.
-- isn't like that say.
You must sit down as a family and have a family meal once a day when you know -- -- it's these experts that really got me doing this -- to have a young cats and I was frustrated but we've heard all the -- -- advice I want some new advice and you dig deeper it's better for parents.
You don't have to worry about -- -- Denard turns out to there's only ten minutes of meaningful conversation in any -- this has been looked at if there's ten minutes.
The rest of -- -- your outlook -- to write -- pass the -- you can take that ten minutes move it to any time of the day had the same benefits can't have them did not.
Hacked him breakfast before bedtime -- even one -- week has the benefit so -- -- -- time -- to work -- today shows you can partnership damaged as -- altogether for ten minutes and figure out families at home when that is meanwhile share -- -- history with your kids why -- -- -- I just suggested this is the number one thing people are talking about from my book.
If they ask kids what do you know about you or where your grandparents were born where your parents met somebody had a difficult -- don't know a lot.
They don't we think they know it but they don't know the story the kids who knew more about the family history had -- -- -- Palestinian greater confidence it was the number of one predictor of a child's well being and the reason is.
And since you're something you're part of right thing larger than your selves and if you know if you teach your kids.
Positive moments and a family history.
But also the negative once how people overcame it it gives them confidence.
When they hit their inevitable -- since taking to throw us a play that did you know game do you know -- very good all right also in this is.
People are going to start this today.
Let your kids -- their punishment you know nothing we think we can also around this is you know it doesn't work you can -- and kids over and over that we don't know what motivates them.
Research shows if you -- kids.
Is set their schedules make their own goals there evaluate their -- work actually builds up their brain.
Gives them more responsibility over their lives and they are more motivated entirely which is what we -- one -- -- what did they say okay for punishment I'm gonna have to watch half an hour television I've met and lots of families and working on the secrets about the fairways they -- -- what we've found is.
Our kids a little Stalin they are much better at and we -- worked constantly dialing them back but we don't know markets this week said if they had five minutes or fewer of overreacting right.
They get a sleepover more than ten minutes one -- -- for every minute I've never would've picked up the -- -- shows that fantastic -- it's all contained in the new book the secrets of happy and we.
Bruce -- thank you very much as -- -- different like --