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Hello all -- -- -- I'm Dr.
Manny for most -- social media plays a huge role in their daily lives.
But for some sites like FaceBook and Twitter they can also greatest source of anxiety joining me now is mental health consultant Stephanie Weis.
My teens I got things.
-- pain in the -- -- I did he and -- and -- you can keep them alive but anyway we're talking about teens and anxiety and I can totally agree.
That -- social media.
An epidemic is making -- nuts they're nuts are ready but they're making it -- -- So.
We know what are the signs that when you have.
There's a problem -- Well -- see your teens and mean their sleep patterns changed true.
A -- either they're not sleep day especially if they have their self funds in their room.
There -- Lee tweeting and putting its computer may -- Exactly Xbox at a map of the room get him out of a badge around good luck and hit him right well it's a good started parents need to make rules from when -- even younger there.
Solid you know it's definitely something I -- -- doing in my house my kids I definitely younger but.
I suggest that the parents.
-- go -- some of this that the signs that you -- social media.
It can lead to let's anxiety.
You talk about followers for -- -- might put on that list.
So I think kids base.
Their self worth today on -- -- followed -- they have right.
How many -- they're getting high and their picture is or are.
What comments they're getting from certain friends or not not getting from other people that they wish that they did.
Right the other thing is you talk about which is my biggest fear of them -- is posting something inappropriate.
Thank you going to -- and -- What I think we need to start when it is.
Explaining to them that you have to just.
Everything you post.
From a young age I mean -- whenever they're starting you can't take it back and I think that kids need to note that these things.
Are being seen not just by your friends but by your friends parents who are attacking their Internet for.
-- you know I always like to say anything that you wouldn't want your principal to see your Graham Odyssey don't.
Don't post anything you wouldn't wanna say to someone you're not saying -- per -- and he wouldn't have the courage to say to their face don't put it online.
What one thing that of course concerns me is a lot about cyber bully -- and this happened as a matter of fact one of my children in the sense that.
You know she had that -- FaceBook which was very appropriate but immediately comments were very careful.
And she herself decided just to you know what I'm not gonna participate in this anymore.
It's not worth the effort but nonetheless cyber bullying is something that is permanent and get you you say something inappropriate to somebody or something hurtful.
And it stays there for a long.
-- like to join and the bandwagon right aides say they see your kids make a funny sarcastic comment and -- eight.
Think they're going to get someone else's approval if they join Maine and say something even funny here are more obnoxious -- -- how do you tackle that.
Again it parents having first -- -- -- the parents need to check with their kids are doing the need to have open communication with their children it's not just what.
Your children are posting but it's what your children's friends who are unfortunately kids are.
Friends with people that they -- they barely even know so.
You need to be able to see what these kids are doing and that that's how parents know what that I cannot.
And and basically one of the things you say here's hiding online activity from your parents so.
You know these -- have a lot of anxiety it's like they don't want their parents to know what they're doing so.
There brought a lot of anxious feeling well so how do you balance that you know.
One that side of the equations is -- -- commonly used in this inappropriate word because I use it for me.
You got a -- right.
My my best friend calls me -- instead Graham police right -- -- you know you spy a and you could do it either above board or on or not above board exactly.
-- can you show me your FaceBook page right.
Or random checks I went in there I lower -- or no I refuse to let you -- give you my password.
Well I hear kids say that personally for me if they are not going to give you their password.
I don't believe that they -- have built the luxury of that at I mean at a certain age.
Seventeen years old and -- almost an adult but when you're talking even younger to write 1230 -- me -- -- -- -- if you are they don't have the best way they shouldn't.
I'll -- you get into the business of the social media and you have a young child think about all these things that's what you're saying now and and would listen about what -- parents can get more information and I'll give you the last word.
A couple of tips to tell Paris.
Well I think importantly for parents is open communication with your children like you sort of said -- -- You can go sneaky spy or you -- be above board and you can set down with your kids and say to them look this is the deal.
You have -- I mean I don't know about you but I do believe that.
Social media is here this day and I am a parent says and know what's going on I'd rather have that open communication and my children.
I know when I'm working my parents I'll say to them you're better off just being honest and having that communication.
With your children to say I'm going to check what you're doing and I want you to know what that.
Schools -- or you know you get you something bad online parents.
All of your friends will see that and they can bring it to the school and show them so.
It is so important that what you're putting on something that you know will be -- sometimes you have the mom -- -- Who knows one thing in the dad is I don't know what's going on -- or vice Versa.
And children use that as an advantage or disadvantage -- -- -- -- -- -- parents need to make these rules and guidelines together so that kids.
But have that there's if I sit between both -- what can people get more information my website www.
Asked -- -- K Stephanie at TP -- and IE dot com all right we'll.