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Himself convinces I am assuming you don't necessarily agree with Sheryl -- that you believe that there are other methods -- Yeah I mean I think it's other necessarily disagree with her but I think a kind of a -- a false binary choice has been set up for women.
Which is a you can either lean into your career -- you can lean into motherhood.
And you know kind of figure out the balance from there.
But I think there's a third option that's very important on and that's that moms should actually lead into fatherhood.
What I mean by that is that.
By doing more to support the involvement of -- -- that their children's fathers and their children's lives it's actually gonna help them do better at both work.
And at home.
All right so.
It's still such a difficult subject.
To talk about it's a dimples so it -- it is a difficult subject for women.
That the debate is worth having though is it not and Sheryl Sandberg an -- criticized for making -- views known on this.
No absolutely not but I think it you know elements her story it's really important actually that she is a very supportive.
Who's very involved in her children's lives as far as we can tell from -- reports that have been made.
On and in in my own life I think it's very true just in terms of the relationship my wife and I -- She trusts me to be an involved father.
And our and our son's life and that's actually helping my mom my wife thrive in her career and then when she comes home.
We worked together as parents and that also helps her be a better mom and I think you know.
There are far too many situations.
And which either by circumstance or choice.
Moms are not letting dads be as involved as they need to be in their children's lives or dads are simply just not there.
For a variety of reasons and that's actually making a lot more difficult.
For moms to be able to dedicate as much.
Energy and time as they can into their careers because they're the only ones who were responsible for everything that's going on at home so I think if mom's really.
Recommit themselves and a sense the institution of fatherhood.
And really help work to help strengthen the institution of -- It's only gonna help them.
Be better at their careers and they'd be better moms -- -- some specific.
Ways that they can do that to strengthen what you goal the institution of father had been so.
Well I think for starters the institution of marriage is a very important an important one here.
On you're not gonna see a whole lot of single parents heading up fortune 500 companies.
They're not gonna have that the support that they they're gonna need to happen you know kind of across the board at home network.
To be able to dedicate themselves to.
A career like that on.
Sheryl Sandberg as I mentioned is is married she has husband who is helping her take take care of things at home.
And as a new report out there really shows that the delay and marriage.
Haven't necessarily brought on a delayed childbearing.
So there are lots of women today in their twenties who are having children out of wedlock and those eventually over a relatively short period of time.
For his father -- and homes.
Also -- -- inches in in helping those.
That very large population of women.
Thrive in their careers.
They're gonna need more help at home and did the easiest most natural place to get that from -- from the father of your children.
And if that's if there's not a marriage there that becomes much much more difficult ominous for moms who are married you know it's a trust issue research really has shown it.
Probably the two most important factors that determine how involved the father is in his children's lives this might be surprised some people is what.
That -- perception is of his skills as a dad and in the quality of the relationship between mom and dad.
In those two things really influenced how involved data's going to be -- mom doesn't trust dad or.
You know thinks that she's the better parent.
And it and dads are kind of sensing that you know is is -- territory all this home stuff is -- territory.
Then she's -- -- basically he's off the hook in a sense and so he's gonna focus on his career mom has to worry about everything that's going on at home.
And then it's going to be much more difficult for her to thrive in her career as a result of that yeah ultimately I guess it's all about partnership up.
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