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All right ladies gentlemen does a big conversation around water -- this morning because there is a Princeton University -- Who is now urging female students at her alma mater.
To lock down an Ivy League husband girls before graduation day she -- -- 200 open letter to her school newspaper which by the way is almost impossible to get onto the website for right now so.
Get a lot of attention and in it she says this here's what nobody is telling you.
-- husband on campus before you graduate men regularly marry women who are younger and less intelligent.
Ultimately it will frustrate you to be with a man who just isn't as Smart as you -- The tank that's a sky a lot of people talking there's more to it and -- so we want to have a little panel discussion about this and we bring in doctor Karen -- Who is -- licensed marriage and their -- family therapist Michael Graham radio host on the New England talk network and comments that the Boston Herald.
Is joining us by phone Michael -- there.
I'm right there are still Michael -- 31 big -- I look at their faxes the facts are that college campuses bring together people with a lot of commonality for example average SAT score draws people so.
Let's and so it comes to academic support your interest -- in an intellectual like Princeton a lot of commonality to go to the floor that Gulf Coast universe degraded district sixteen not so much that -- -- -- We've got a -- she got to a bigger pool of common people common interest -- also likely social science about what women expect that relationship.
-- Mordechai who they perceive as an intellectual -- -- federal -- will be happy to walk -- -- the -- safe and apparently they felt that.
-- -- Well actor raskin let me -- do you now I have my daughter and my sister rather my sister married a guy from Princeton who is my brother and -- we -- -- He couldn't find -- -- girls who are Smart enough at Princeton for him yet to go to Bucknell university in Pennsylvania where the girls are actually much smarter.
-- -- average there thank goodness and they have been very happily married for many years so.
About her suggestion that in a sort of you want someone who's your intellectual equal and if you're at an Ivy League school you better get -- before you graduate.
Right -- habit that young girls have to.
Focus their energy and attention while they're in school not only to their school work and their social life and their extracurricular and the mental health and wellness.
But now they have to find a man -- and -- and make sure she hasn't for the rest of her life.
I don't agree with that actually when it comes to intellectually -- them although certainly -- similarities could help.
A so called future relationship.
The fact is being intellectually equal doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to have a healthy and happy and successful marriage.
At times there is a woman -- with the man was very difference.
In style and in approaches and selection with them and they have a very happy and successful may have -- intellectually -- is not at I absolutely.
Indicate you know it away for me the headline in this piece is not what's getting so much attention and I think and you know probably because she's a Princeton graduate.
Most people feel in a sort of an affinity to their school -- she's saying that's where all the best people are.
But might well you know this thing she says is that there's too much -- -- on achieving professionally.
And and I think -- away she's touching on something significant here because I think that young women are sort of topic the most important thing now.
Is to achieve professionally to have a great career.
But shouldn't we also be teaching them that you know part of life and happiness in life is finding.
That partner and they should at least the open to that Michael.
You know I put on the record days of the air -- degree you know ring by spring kind of theory but -- the -- or justifying joy happiness that I.
Find your career -- sort of punch you know I got my medical whatever -- -- -- to be happy with food.
But the notion that women should not think about.
They're personal relationship part of part of there's usually solely and appear to be professional but don't look at me and it.
We're thinking the same I don't know looking for a wipe them with a bit of Parker duke who can make it -- -- offer my investment.
Very good point you know my my parents met and -- -- school.
My dad went to sort of check out all the freshmen are also a couple of his buddies and he saw this really cute girl that he liked a lot and that they've been married for many many years as well also but I I it's not so much where you find -- but -- I think -- million all right Karen.
Yet when you know you know and it's not about putting pressure that you have to find someone within that four year time span.
For some -- they'll find someone collagen for some not it shouldn't be a focus either way you know I love his story my husband and I actually mean that 1980 college and -- -- together and I love the -- can meet them when you're young.
You can also meet some -- when -- older and some couples -- Often they're not happy and they say -- and -- when I was young I wish I had more time to develop into who I really am and others are very having been together for many years yes and is no right or wrong here I think -- -- you must you know I have a sister who.
First matter has been an eighth grade and they've been married to out of -- all out.
I mean I I think hey it happens at thirteenth and hasn't happened at fifty it's all about yeah find the right person but I think that's what has got people talking.
I think it's at significant aid actually doctor Karen Ruskin and Michael -- sorry we couldn't get -- -- diving catch on the bombing has taken a traffic jams and thank you for culinary thank you take -- guys and.
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