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One Ivy League -- touching off some controversy this weekend with an op Ed in the Princeton University newspaper.
In which she wrote quote speaking to young women the poets at Princeton.
For most of you the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the -- Mary.
And you'll never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you.
Here's what nobody is telling you.
Find a husband on campus before you graduate.
And loaded Susan -- feel the backlash from that.
Now the author of that letter Princeton -- Susan pat and Susan thanks for being here thank you for having first let me ask you why you wrote this.
Because I think all the information that's being directed to young woman today is about their career developments their professional advancement.
Nobody is talking with them about the other part of work life balance nobody is talking with them about the importance.
Of thinking about family and for those women who do want to traditional marriage and children that got to start thinking about it.
Sooner rather than later now here's some of the blowback that -- received this is just one example from Maureen O'Connor New York magazine who says.
That this is an excruciatingly.
Retro understanding of relationships.
Your conclusion that a sex as successful heterosexual relationship requires the man.
To be smarter than the one because Susan posits that the women different servers mark and should find very Smart husband's in the best place they're likely to do that is -- that prints that.
I don't like -- anything about it that's retro or anti famine fast or revolutionary in any matter.
Went and wanna be married and I want to have children many of them to not all of them do.
And very -- my advice and that's all was advice nature of advice take it don't take it it's all okay.
Was just start.
Thinking about the -- I know so many women who graduate from these wonderful schools.
And that's the first ten years after college doing nothing but professional development building their careers.
Now there in early thirties.
And that's starting to be panicked then it it is controversial to suggest.
That we as women need to marry men who are smarter than we are.
Or at least as Smart as we are in order to find happiness don't need to we want to.
And if the women's movement has truly empowered us to make the choices that are best for us this is one of those choices.
And the women who are -- another Ivy -- campuses and other extraordinarily well.
Universities have higher.
They've invested in -- academic achievement they care about.
The pursuit of knowledge in the pursuit of excellence in a very real way didn't get to these campuses you're saying women who didn't go to Princeton do not be -- saying this is characteristic of the women who are Princeton.
And get the advice was -- very specifically to the young women who are on campus on campus -- while my car and that it went so viral so quickly makes me think this is a conversation that young women need to be having.
-- nobody is talking with them about that this is another thing for the near magazine response.
That it is an elitist assumption that finding an intellectual equal outside of -- -- -- campus is next to impossible.
And Maureen O'Connor says that this is an embarrassing window into how I'd be leaders talk to each other it's not impossible you can certainly find a terrific person not a terrific life partner outside of Princeton.
All I'm suggesting is that the concentration.
Of these wonderful potential partners is greatest during your undergraduate years.
From sheer numbers perspective the odds will never be in your -- the way they are.
Here during the during these critical for years to find not only -- -- potential life partner on your best friends.
To find people that you can grow in your life left and feel challenged by -- two people who will be threatened by -- people who won't be intimidated by you or capacity for greatness.
Because this is -- this has been a problem for so many well educated women that I -- buying this doesn't necessarily turn out to be a turn on.
To supplement and ended and end a fellow lob from Princeton.
What is her name -- Mueller yes she wrote she came up with his video -- much of which we can't air because it's a little.
And she she shares your pain here here's a little bit from that.
-- only name.
When you learn -- -- I'm not a but -- -- up and but now people who didn't go to prison I went to Syracuse which is the Princeton of upstate New York.
-- -- me respond to this by saying these elitists not me.
I you -- people who think they're better than we are or the guys may be thinking.
I'm not suggesting anybody's better than -- -- I'm sang to the young women in my head my alma mine if you want.
Home husband family start thinking about that sooner rather than later because in this -- there is not equality between men and women.
Men having virtually on limited window of opportunity to marry and have children.
Women don't women clearly there's it is there is there's a clear it would stop date -- a clear end point to that possibility so this is an -- You've been hit four though because -- -- to criticism is that your suggestion is you can only get a man is a woman if you if you look good.
And are on the younger side even if you're Smart not only did it.
And if you're a man you can always get it a woman yes.
Yes you you believe that yeah I do yes I do that again that's like -- And I also thank some of the criticism has been well -- 22 you're too young to make a decision you're too young to even know who you are right 22 was not gonna be who you war.
In your thirties okay what -- in your thirties who weren't authorities is not going to be who you are you forty that is very true that is so that that that that he's absolutely true so please I mean let's let's be reasonable here of this isn't this is a constant evolution.
We are always going to be evolving and if you find somebody who shares your intellectual curiosity who shares your -- learning.
And the process of education and formal education what you do the likelihood those as this evolution occurs.
You grow with each other strike out there and hot and that and that pond is full Walden -- -- without -- -- Hey you know it's interesting I I I think what you said is very controversial -- that does it make it.
It -- and I think it's a conversation that needs to be had on the fact that that this has gone everywhere everybody is talking about this and I got letters from -- when he went on campus.
Not just presence campus but other campus -- oh my god.
I've been afraid to even think about us what's let's talk about a half.
And now everybody's talking you opened -- can I did they give man can't thank you appreciate all of -- Thoughts on that I would love -- -- -- at Twitter on Twitter at Megyn Kelly let me know what you think.
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