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Hello to -- -- undocumented according to the CDC.
About one in 88 children have been identify with autism spectrum disorder.
While most parents often focused on finding the reason their child is different and concentrate on finding the solutions to fix them.
My guest today shares the story of how her eight year old son's diagnosis changed her family and her life welcome.
Carried a real book what color is Monday will open your eyes toward his own -- you in the shoes of a parent trying to raise a family.
With a special needs child.
Thank you for writing this book I mean I tell you hold my -- have read -- -- myself included everybody's so inspired by it.
So what motivate you to write this so you know this beautiful book.
Like this at the beginning of the project I can identify one certain thing -- was motivated by I just use it as a creative outlet to kind of reflect on my day.
In week in journey with Jack as we kind of trundle along and then as the project unfolded -- meaning behind it became more.
I'm purposeful I realized it was a great way to share him with the world.
To put a face to the name of ought to some right and to really expose his gifts and his extraordinary.
Challenges throughout life.
Now that the book again is what color is Monday.
The title -- what what's what's in the title here.
Why I didn't come to the title until book was nearly finished my but I will tell you I played around different concepts of a snowflake I thought about calling it something with snowflake in the title because.
I think people and not to -- are also uniquely different and fragile and beautiful and unusual.
And then one day I was driving in the car and I reflected on a conversation that I had with Jack about a year prior during the fall.
And he said to me in his very clips -- mom mom what color do you see Monday.
-- -- -- -- I don't know what you mean I don't see the days of the week -- collar.
And then from that conversation very brief with Jack as usual it unfolded that -- -- each day -- the week is -- different loses this book for.
You know at first it was for me.
Made a chronicle my dating journey with him and then slowly became for him to do justice to -- to sort of help people understand.
What he's like -- what he brings to my life and then I think by the end of it's -- for the world at large and for anyone who's been touched by autism in some way shape or form.
-- the intro I said that it then -- kind of became.
Different parent now you have other children.
From what I don't know about you your family so when when Jack was diagnosed with militarism.
How did that change your parent to.
Well along the way it's always altering to sort of -- jacking his means we have four other children he's the second out of five.
And I think and he's really forced us to slow down.
Figure out his intention behind his behaviors.
What motivates him what in this kind of the purpose behind the typical characteristics of autism -- rigidity and anxiety.
And things like that.
And so across the board we just started -- -- all of our kids differently -- warm mind -- present for them.
How -- the other kids dealing with.
Him having this unique characteristic.
Well I think that's really they -- I tried to bring to light in the -- as we have five remarkable children.
And they have all sort of adapted and given Jack the room he needs to -- In the emotional stability and support whether they know it or not -- they are such a huge factor and his growth and progress.
Sure you went through and I went through and the first question everybody has has why me or why this child.
-- we're looking for rhyme and reason was in the delivery was something that I could do my pregnancies this is something in my genes.
And then we get into the whole world trying to make them normal according to what we think it's normal.
Now in your angle in dealing with -- your son and of course writing this book.
You adapt it.
And you -- do you think that parents spend too much time focusing trying to find out why.
And how to fix it rather than sometimes -- what they god.
I think it is -- tendency -- always be reflecting on I could do more I could push more could put him in more places like could expose him to more.
And you sort of like a hamster on -- wheel running on that track all of the time.
-- and myself included I'm certainly guilty of that but I really do.
Think he's shown me you have to take the time to appreciate the gifts that he brings to life every single day.
Because you can't get stuck in that track of thinking and it doesn't always work out to be productive they fear.
And I don't know how you feel.
How the world is gonna treat them.
-- he -- from.
They're going to in in other was some times.
I I I don't hear a lot of people and you certainly are one of them that is doing and battling a lot of people.
Trying to protect the rights of these children.
And what do you think about that -- you do you worry about those things.
How absolutely nearly every day worry about what it will be like injects an adult if he lives independently if he doesn't live independent and I think it's a huge concern right.
Because I think I think that as we I mean look the scientific community content will continue to try to find answers.
To us to why -- to some happens -- -- that.
I think environmental factors.
Need to be looked at more carefully especially pregnant women.
But once we have the problem.
-- we -- we have to make sure these kids have protected and integrated into our societies.
Our house Jack today Jack is -- Powell is if he's -- healthy nine shortly and he is just a remarkable.
-- interest seeing little boy happy what advice would you give parents.
That have worked for you.
Specific advice is a mom and what can people get more information.
I think the best piece of advice I was ever given is always assume that behavior.
Of any child autistic or not has a purpose and once you can look behind -- and kind of figure out what their intentions are.
He can really dig into their motivations and kind of figure -- a -- of -- of how they think.
And -- on a different scale the best advice I was always -- is take time for yourself.
You can be the best mother father spouse parent you are when you have some time to yourself when you grow yourself as a person -- -- only able to give back to them more.
Right and people can get more information.
So I have a weekly blog every Monday -- www.
What color is Monday dot com all right.
Well listen I think -- this is very inspirational IE you know.
To -- whether you have a child with militarism are not.
You should pick up this book it took it's -- it's a good read -- -- fast read.
But you gonna learn a lot.
Because as I say.
Having a child with autism.
You really understand.
When you have a pure soul.
And these children have pure souls.
How they touch you how they make you feel.
And now how they make you know how how you can see sometimes the world through their eyes and it's just a beautiful world so thank you so much for coming.
Thank you so much for writing the book.
-- do you have any health questions you can email me here at fox have got to me if Fogg was dot com thanks for watching for Fox News.
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