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The video involving Mike rice the -- because basketball coach he was fired yesterday off to that videos surfaced.
All of him pushing shoving kicking.
Some of the players -- under his tutelage.
Also throwing balls hit balls at them directly and perhaps worst -- wall and perhaps what took it across the line for a lot of people.
Was the verbal abuse the homophobic -- was he -- -- -- -- as well.
Is this very common in sports.
Strikes two strikes me that many coaches may indulge in such behavior and may be thinking.
Thank goodness those Smartphones -- why was coaching I don't know lets us Kara Kramer who was found it -- -- and -- All of the excellent -- still -- excellence with ease in sports.
And life FaceBook that I -- clearly need to read more closely so I can achieve greater excellence -- -- good to have you here about a possible.
What was your initial reaction when you saw that video we you outraged that you think -- That happens in sports well both you actually it happens in sports -- it's the culture unfortunately.
Not only in sports but you see it in.
And Boy Scouts -- you see it another and other areas.
But to me.
It's more important to look at why someone would behave that way -- what causes that.
And and that's what I want to talk about that's what I think can help all of us so it what do you I mean as a coach's.
In an atmosphere.
Very much these days these you you know college coaches when they all the king.
When is that it's not feeds is this a little -- ego will won't.
It's all about a misunderstanding.
So if a person like Mike rice in this case believes that his feelings.
Come from the performance of his players the behavior of his players that he thinks that.
And the insecurity that crops up within hand more anger -- judgment comes from outside.
He's gonna look out there and try to fix it.
And the more he looks that way because his feelings don't come from out there.
His behavior will continue to escalate downhill fact of the matter is human beings Mike rice you and me included we feel.
Our feelings come from inside a bus and again if we attribute our feelings to outside of us.
-- prone to some some some crazy things and in my in my way of looking at it.
Outside in -- believing that your experiences are created from the outside and as opposed to the inside out.
That's it that's a dangerous entity but the coach is going to be judged to countries -- in every way shape and form.
On results so he's going to project that I guess he's going to be outside -- as you put it rather -- inside at how do you fix it.
Well you you you fix -- by understanding it it really doesn't work that way Jonathan big it's actually impossible no matter how much it may look like your feelings come from something out -- Outside they are your feelings come from inside -- U.
But what our mother we were -- parents that we complained about our neighbor and he was hurting my feeling she was hurting my feelings and our parents would say well.
She can't hurt your feelings while they were right our feelings come from in here and again if we look outside to explain them -- to fix them.
We're gonna get in it's gonna get -- east give an example and non sports example say you're driving down the highway.
And you get cut off and you get angry.
Now if you think that the person cut you off is causing your anger.
You're gonna virtually have no choice but.
To do something about it you don't like to feel angry different -- you're gonna look out there are you gonna -- the guy down or do something crazy.
Now the person who understands fully that his or her feelings come from within.
They still may feel angry.
But they're gonna keep driving and by the time they get home or wherever they were going in the incident will be forgotten.
So the mind is designed to take those angry feelings those insecure feelings and -- that.
And they wash away naturally as fresh bought an insight fill the space.
If if Mike rice.
Mike -- clearly doesn't know works that way so he believed that the performance of his players.
-- causing his insecurity and thus he had virtually no choice I'm not excusing it.
He had no choice but take out his insecurities.
On on something outside the -- is -- therapy.
-- he needs.
He kids bleed I think a person can realize this and an instant.
So what I do in my work and through my books and -- five point -- people how how our experience or create our experiences are created.
Based on our thinking and our mind sets in the moment they're not created on something outside.
And and it's not only his problem in this case it was the administration's problem and to a certain extent it was as players problem and assistant coaches problem as well -- Alright Garrett Kramer who is -- -- Garrett so website Derek Raivio dot com.
And the book is still -- excellence with ease in sports and life.
Go check out all of those for a lot of that great lessons enough.
I do hope Mike rice goes and regional -- and checks out the website and I are great told to think -- tonight.
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