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Ryan is -- to settle down with -- of a different religion.
An unfaithful move or is -- a new trend research shows the divorce rate among interfaith families -- three times higher.
An -- -- households and new book looks deeper into the reasons why that might be joining me now is the author to tell -- do us part.
How interfaith marriage is transforming America and Schaefer Riley could quarantine and commitment and -- you would know you personally.
In a marriage where there are two different religions -- -- -- -- -- -- face no faith marriage that I think that raises a lot of the same questions about.
The things that most couples you know our most interested in talking about and then and how they raise their children and how they spend their money and how they spend their time -- So on your first date with your husband you said I'm Jewish but and if we if you know if you wanna continue dating me if we ever get together and -- kids the kids will be raised Jewish Smart move.
I think so I mean I don't want to be gloating but but I I think I actually conducted a study survey in July 20102500.
And I learned that more than half of interfaith couples don't actually talk about how they're gonna raise kids before they get married.
And I think what happens is that this raises a lot of problems intentions later on.
A lot a lot of us -- underestimate how important face is to us and as we get older.
You know the age of marriage is rising and and our twenties are very secular time in our -- a lot of people sort of drop out of church they don't think of themselves as religious but once they get married.
And they have children then he's kind of feelings come rushing back and now you're in a partnership with someone who didn't think you -- particularly religious and where do you go from there I think is that is a hard question so.
You are not done.
Saying that it's necessarily wrong for husband and wife to see the world differently comes down to the kids and how you choose to -- -- and then what typically happens is.
They you Biden made the choice before you have the kids an eagle in one direction brain or.
There is no religion -- Right I think -- certainly a lot of -- couples a plurality of them and according to my study do choose to raise children and in no faith.
But I think a lot of them do do tend to raise children want to decide to raise children one -- but it becomes increasingly difficult as the marriage goes on.
But I do but I do think -- -- obviously worth while -- talk about these things ahead of time.
And that and I and I.
I'm surprised at the number of people who don't opportunity.
Have you had any -- do you perceive that you have any backlash because.
One of the things about your book is that you say part of the issue here is political correctness and being open and tolerant for everything so maybe that's one of the reasons people don't talk I think that's actually true the number of people encountered who said they thought it was big needed to ask about someone's religion ahead of time was very surprising.
And we have to understand that marriage is different from say living next door to someone of a different faith or working with someone of -- different -- -- just being friends with them.
You have to make joint decisions with your next door neighbors about raising your kids are spending your money.
But when it comes to marriage you know a husband and wife need to -- marriage counselors told me this again and again when I interviewed them.
Marriage at you know husbands and was needs to be on the same page when it comes to you know certain core values.
And not only values you know like you know be kind other people but also religious traditions you know are even -- a baptism of circumcision a -- -- -- you know if you are.
These are things that really touched people very close to their hearts and I think it's important -- to recognize that it's a fascinating discussion and Naomi Schaefer Riley.
I -- -- do us part is the book entry -- --
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