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Hello welcome to -- Doug I'm Dr.
Manny as Paris.
We could all use a little advice and sometimes that advice comes from on unexpected source.
Steve you're about is the best known for his role as a mobster -- Bobby -- allow on the hit television drama The Sopranos to any.
-- -- These days though.
He stars as -- a calm cool and collected -- on ABC's family's the secret lives of the American teenager.
But his most important role -- play at home as a father to his daughter's.
Is -- today to talk about his new book big -- rules racing daughters is tougher than I look.
And you do look.
Tough my friend but -- tough looking guy.
This great book thank you big daddy's little I think it's great because it has a lot of common sense ideas for parent.
What made you read book.
You know it's a love letter to my -- you know I want -- let them know what I how I really feel I don't always express it the proper way you know noted that that was the main reason.
Right and I also got a lot of opinions.
There's a lot of dads.
They're looking for advice and you don't that's always portrayed in the movies and TV like bumbling idiots right I'm not a navy.
You know I got an idiot so I wanted say hey wait a minute here and listen to me so let let let me let's describe that this style of parent.
How would you describe yourself as a parent what I would describe myself.
Certainly a throwback.
1940s that -- -- -- if he's that.
I'm very strict.
I came I yell a lot I love it I yell -- -- -- you know there's no negotiating.
Because I think it's always not those -- a -- best words in English language because I said so okay.
And it -- -- wife is she does she played good the good cop.
What she plays at the sometimes you know you'd you'd get a yet sometimes but.
You know -- -- pretty much in sync -- my -- not always not everything of course -- Barry 24 years.
And we're pretty pretty much in sync we we dig to save that she's a little.
More lenient she's not a -- -- right you know I had the two kids a gala.
The way that the church to the discouraged -- show don't do that I hear from the other room by daughter and are arguing.
Then finally I got asked that been so -- giving him.
A -- the start off right.
Now you call yourself big daddy.
Is does that mean like you that copy of two -- copy in the house that said you kind of centralized power.
Look a big daddy it's as a matter how big you walk out -- off you -- The big daddy takes to watch when he's present.
He's president whether the kids you with the kids or not with the kids what -- instilled in them since it is big.
That's where you -- that's where big daddy comes it you know it's got a big pot he's got a big Tampa.
And he's got a big mouth.
That's what a big -- -- and does it matter and stature.
This if not I'd take a charge up -- president I wanna know where they are cool there with.
Where they're going how you getting home how you getting there kids don't think that I go out it's 8 o'clock sort of at a party.
And what about the rest right I mean I'm I'm just like you.
Very much like you in many ways -- -- this book has a lot of anecdotes this is sort of the story of your.
You who -- your daughter's.
But -- had to be a story that sticks in your mind.
As a doozy.
My -- Mexican American my daughter goes to private school my old -- And at the time she was sixteen -- seventy.
And she told the teacher at school that she says it's hot in here.
He told to take -- few blocks.
The teachers that -- in the classroom right is -- and I'm sure does take a few blocks.
Then a week later which comes on she's crime that he -- -- about it.
You know -- well I may tag that said something and he made fun that I'm a Mexican he Spanish.
That -- -- Mexicans and promise them.
-- said OK that's enough I called the school I go over there now in my head I'm saying this guy going to be a big guy.
And get a comment I'm gonna he's gonna got -- -- may I have this scenario built up on the way to the school I'm gonna.
Till about march -- pull out at a school.
I get to the office I'm telling the guys -- -- -- right he must weigh.
-- let's stop weighs more than it.
He was so apologetic.
He was almost -- I almost -- a pat him on the head OK it's OK and he apologized and I said to him what can you be thinking.
You know what can you be thinking -- About saying destroy young girl what do you think -- I wasn't gonna come and I wasn't gonna say confront -- right and he was just apologetic.
And -- you know shortly left the school you know not long after that and rightfully so.
Soldier lets you know I'm protecting that I have to run that well you know I didn't have to write it in other words you're saying.
Be involved I'm involved with a little over involved in the -- I'm a bit above every step away in this scheme of life that's not a big deal but it may lead to big deals you know maybe -- more disrespectful I want my daughter.
Both of them this is what I want I wanted to be good people.
And I wanted to be safe right and I feel everything else will fall into place I honestly believe.
If we had your daughters here and I said.
You know but I know what my kids would say -- he's -- he's in my face every day he wants to know every it is has always screaming.
And I'm very much like you.
But if I had your daughters now they're a little bit older one is 21 on the other -- -- 7070.
So these are now almost young adult women.
What would they say was some of the things that they learn from you.
Well I think kids like the structure I honestly bright that they complain about it that's but I think deep down that I know not not think they'd like that you care.
If you say that come home when you -- gag -- refrigerator have a BA the what you want to think kids want to know that you really.
Care about them and a concern and they know.
That I'm doing this to them I'm not going to just to be a pain in the butt right I'm doing it.
Because I know better right and they can't learn from their mistakes central that's saying -- -- -- that -- you'll be a failure.
Okay learn from other people's mistakes learn from my mistakes so I'm telling you something for you over -- you know.
-- that not your friend but on the best friend ever gonna have.
Of course no one's gonna care about you like I care about now -- people are gonna say Lal you know he's a big celebrity as a lot of help at home.
I don't know how he had him I want out that's what -- did you know that that's -- what do you do should have because you know.
Look people not be a big celebrity I mean people adore you from The Sopranos -- -- I you -- an icon.
And people think that well these Hollywood stars.
They just have -- much infrastructure and then you -- the crap that a lot of Hollywood actors.
When they're in the Todd -- isn't you know -- -- with but you -- and I'd say you can balance your career and -- it be that big daddy at home.
Look dot I hide from Brooklyn I come from -- -- I come from -- for family.
I I come from not the greatest.
Family structure you know have a mother father raise five kids my father didn't provide.
That's not how I learned how to be a good follows you know not you know doing opposite of him of course but.
I've taken on this responsibility.
I'm a regular guy I have a better job than most I'd love what I do I'm lucky enough to do that.
But I I'm dead I'm in their world every step of the way.
Not well over the top in a lunatic.
I worry about that you know I wanna be there too many parents want to pacify them here go do this guy go out but I had to get the my day it does -- -- summer camp for the stomach target these kids out of my head and knocked out of -- some McCain's bad because it's not but.
Get the body I wanna go out I wanna do this kid go play video games leave me alone get out of my eyes I had the kids I wanna raise -- I wanna give them the best possible.
How did you handle dating.
Lejeune an amazing guy become homeland -- oh you know it's very hard for me.
They haven't dated much like -- the number one but the -- the one had a boyfriend.
I was very respectful to the -- but I kind of hug them and said you're gonna watch my little girl right and I want to threaten my tackles -- think that might work in reverse right.
You know like they'll go bad idea -- showed his guy that's all you know and he he got my drift.
It could be the end of The Sopranos are a live for that show the -- does not everyone answers are going to be a reunion reunion a movie.
The closest thing to a soprano movie may 27 on Nickelodeon.
Okay he's a movie called -- deuce it's a family movie.
Kid movie it's on Nickelodeon at 8 o'clock it's -- myself that I produce it Jim Gandolfini.
Michael imperial Leigh Tony streak of its -- -- Rita Moreno -- fish out of water story our young boy he spends a summer of Brooklyn and -- I called upon my friends I produced it.
And now we shot at this summit and it's a terrific terrific movie this is as close to a soprano movie is -- unified five guys.
Regular cast members in the -- in the moment well -- you'll enjoy it thank you so much for telling is that.
All right big -- rules raising daughters -- -- for the -- look get it.
Every parent if you think you're having and maybe I'm gonna -- dormant patiently for a deliver them.
So much -- something that.
And if you have any health problems -- to vote to me about email we have -- -- -- may have Fogg -- not come until next time I'm not demand.
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