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-- -- right to this story -- do you feel like the guys you work with just don't listen.
And guys do you feel like you have to walk around on egg shells -- around women in your office William -- Be just right well the man who famously claimed that men are from Mars and women are from Venus is back and he says there are just stereotypes his new book quote is work with me.
The eight blind spots between men and women and business is out now.
Here to let us in on the secrets of working better together -- father John Gray -- you still discovering things that make us get.
The workplace is about productivity and making money.
And when you put men and women in that environment there's still a lot of misunderstanding.
And room for growth if we understand our differences -- a positive way.
So you have these eight blind spots.
-- men need to change do men appreciate women are women being excluded.
Women too emotional man insensitive.
It's sort of like anything -- -- yanked.
But let's try to help some people today didn't go on to your book and talk about those learn about -- blind spot.
You say that one of the tips is we aren't equals so we should recognize and appreciate the difference -- how can we do that.
Well what I'm saying is we're not the same I think we all have equal potential.
And often women feel and are served we have or a 100000 people in the workplace half the women felt that they were being appreciated by men.
And 90% of the men thought.
They were appreciating the women.
So there's a disconnect there women often feel appreciated would you take a little extra time to find out what they're doing and let them express themselves.
-- asking a few questions and saying that's that must be really frustrating.
Just a little bit more involvement on a man's -- dig a little deeper and women feel scene and they feel valued.
See you got to ask the questions because in this is your next point.
Where not mind readers who have a woman isn't saying anything he can a person might think well she's got nothing to say but in reality what's -- -- Yeah out guys wanted to be like playing soccer kicking the ball back and forth but sometimes a woman -- processing so much information.
She has way more connected to issue in their brains says she's thinking a lot about a lot of things.
And a man assumes she must not have not anything that's at issue and it's not -- so.
-- noticing -- asking -- saying hey what he's thinking about this.
It's amazing how much more comes and we take the time to hear diverse points of view.
That's what allows as the coupled with better solutions and a more positive workplace -- -- silent -- could be trouble for the guy because a woman's coming up at some stuff.
Hey let's talk about what in the world but gotta be back -- the workplace as opposed to women.
Tell me about what men want.
Well what better looking for is often they feel frustrated when women ask a lot of questions it comes across as challenging doubting questioning his abilities itself -- So women have to soften their approach when they learned that -- -- -- -- what we look at one of the questions are what's going on.
What do what -- quarter of I'm -- things for a man Brian Whitman asked him any questions.
At the same time on grass between -- and can realize that.
Talking about things sometimes does prevent mistakes.
It bank on having your question just because an -- I mean -- mean I'm not thinking.
Yeah what about -- what about when women come out with questions that they actually mean like what the heck are you doing I don't understand you.
Like you could actually take women literally could you.
-- are always some method to there questions this have been behind -- words.
Well sometimes it's a good communication skill but it turns out that 90% of men and our survey.
Feel annoyed irritated when women ask more questions so that's one of these this connects what -- get that feedback.
-- -- didn't learn new ways to communicate that are not so piercing with why would you do that as opposed issue could say help me understand what's going on here.
That's -- Minnesota have sent word.
You make some sense because they just have this conversation my husband last night -- just don't worry about bad don't ask so many questions we've got to just.
Talk about what's on the table right now there's been a different husband -- Nokia I'll stack it up with Mars and Venus to John great thanks so much the book is.
Is work with -- me.
Check it out thanks John.
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