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They are we crazy segments and I according to a study done at the University of Chicago 35% 35% of American couples who eventually -- Met online while.
Question is is that a good thing.
-- this -- attorney and psychologist doctor Bonnie farce.
And from Los Angeles psychologist doctor Wendy Walsh the author of the book the thirty -- -- detox aren't so good or bad doctor Walsh.
Well I think it's a lot better -- choosing -- may be cut through the distortion of a martini and a singles bar based on their legs I mean really that was the -- right.
So you look -- let me let me stop you right there like would you be distorted with a martini on the Internet.
I guess I got in -- -- so let's throw that on our personalities survey Iraq.
So what we have here is we have a machine.
That's basically bringing two people together and you think that's a good thing.
I think it's better than what we had however this doesn't hit his -- -- happier marriage are longer marriage because we have this illusion in our culture right now that the key to successful marriage is choosing the perfect partner.
When actually it's about being the perfect partner having good relationships skills and so many kids today are.
Kids young adults adults are children of divorce of -- the way they learn to -- -- why me why is the Internet introduction better than what you.
-- -- Oh because innings personality studies you can actually find out people's values right away before you even click on that we're saying hello and -- -- -- drink.
You know what their values are and so okay because everything is front and you -- drink that's kind of -- -- well.
All right now in the -- today as I.
Say no way I'd say it's no better than a -- -- you know I think the issue is is that.
You get these online dating sites -- they give you the illusion that they're thinking about the scientifically.
Finn look at things like is the person agreeable.
Is the person optimistic.
Those aren't necessarily.
Things that contribute to long term relations.
How would the Internet -- even know that everybody lies on these things on -- exactly -- -- -- to say look come on them.
Let's socio path then I enjoy a killing animals and I add that I I made some website you what would not on these.
No I think it's I think -- the other things look is it a great way to meet 200 people one shot you're not gonna meet that many people in the -- -- sales.
Absolutely not to buy drinks and you can have them but you don't -- -- I -- -- -- -- -- you are mixed and and and cautious about it in the area where is doctor won't do more bullish.
On on the and -- leading senate okay.
Now exactly and this studies -- bill was funded by.
It takes like forty minutes to sign up your sworn in my -- I -- -- I.
-- -- -- -- Our chances of luck I was cynical about RS because I believe that life should be lived.
In a very personal face to face Matt -- like the machines that would never do this however I'm not gonna I'm not gonna criticize people who do -- -- I'm not.
Because of it works for them as if they can rise into a comfort level on the Internet and then meet someone in person.
And it makes it a little bit easier -- people are are shy and and and some of them are insecure.
And if this can help them that I think it's a positive -- it's just on the individual correct.
I think you're absolutely right there and I bet Wendy would agree with us.
If it slows things down bell.
If it gives you a chance to get to know somebody -- China -- -- and their values nor understand what's important Saddam some of those things are important.
Then you give me more relaxed you don't have to worry about your shoes.
And and I was doing Skype but then you have to do and so that -- half but I don't change your mouth and win the next study is done five years or ten years from now about all the people who got married on the Internet.
I think you're gonna see the same kind of -- trade in the same kind of problems that he saw.
In the traditional way of meeting people because.
Up until you after World War II was a lot of them marriages were arranged arranged marriages in the USA it was like you're gonna marry this one because of the families and that that's happened all.
The -- I think you're right in and -- and tell your story straight.
Well but but winning this doesn't choose on the things that actually predict we know what predicts a good relationship long term how you handle conflict for example they're reading people on that now when you get that's studying you start looking at those factors.
Then I think we can start.
I think I think with the prediction is is are you a good person and -- America and another good person but he easily you can be easily fooled in that situation our ladies as always thank you wake up right.
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