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The decision so many moms have to make stay at home with the kids -- continue to work outside the home.
Not working might sound great but now one woman is making a lot waves by saying she now regrets leaving her high powered banking job.
Twenty years after making that decision.
She writes this my kids think I did nothing they saw me cooking cleaning driving volunteering and even writing but they know what a job looks like and they don't think I had one.
Who has now is that mom we -- and what heparin and joins us live in stimulus -- thanks a lot for coming on you every moment of my street.
Sent this piece around many comments on it.
The first question I have when I read it was what are your kids think of this -- you're basically saying I'm -- every used to respect what time with people -- not -- I -- -- I don't know I don't know I you know I love my kids like every -- let their -- I'm just reflecting on this from my life and just my personal opinion in my personal experience.
-- I should have done things differently I should -- I should've kept a toehold in the water I shouldn't.
And -- -- how what does that you say keep pilot light on in your professional life how can you do that like your raising three well it's hard to do but I think -- need to get the pilot lit under your profession so let's say you're a teacher trying do some.
I'm substitute teaching if you're nurse trying to shift a shift a month a shift delete something like that something to keep.
That little flame going -- your professional life if you wanna go back to that life -- not every mom -- but some some moms do you interestingly said that in this piece that.
You hadn't weighed the non monetary.
Repercussions of being -- stay at home mom what do you mean by that I mean I hadn't realized how much it would.
Lower my confidence in myself.
You know I think you come out of school you're an ambitious twenty year old -- you're striving you've got a career he stay home for a decade or more you find yourself I found myself I should speak for myself.
Feeling less confident in my abilities and less able to go back in the workplace because we always hear what you know what an incredible job it is to be stay home mom I mean it's.
It's more work to do that perhaps than it is to go off to an office every day -- -- get to -- cubicle and chat with your -- here there and changing diapers and raising these kids developing strong characters in these kids.
A harder job.
Yes I would think.
Well it is a very hard it's -- very challenging job and I and it wouldn't say for one minute it's less work thing going out of the working world.
When -- suggesting is if you want to go back into -- working world.
Don't take your finger off the -- completely because you'll find yourself outdated outmoded.
And have a very difficult time -- you think -- more options now for women with the stay at home.
Work at home opportunities there's a launch a lot more option you know when I when I left the workplace I -- -- that there wasn't the Internet there wasn't an ability work from home telecommuting wasn't possible.
Telecommuting allows I think moms who know they want to go back to to continue working.
There's also an effect on your marriage not just your parenting but on -- -- -- that you -- by.
My husband that I slipped into a more traditional marriage in every way my husband sees me as -- but in the years that I have been home our partnership has developed a faint.
1950s with like mad men what does that mean.
What I meant was my husband -- -- -- as co workers as as people often do we had the same job and we were to missing company.
And then I stayed home and he continued on with his career so I -- to -- all this more traditional things that we do you see on mad -- and we sort of slipped into those -- He didn't really change his views of me but our lights change and the patterns of our -- changed.
And I it's just an observation Andy did you feel like you could relate to him in some no not at all not at all no question felt like I can relate to him completely.
But I found myself to all the traditional things that moms and wives did.
203040 years ago but he really struck a -- and this is something you people talk about a regular basis and we have this discussion in my home and it's a really powerful piece.
Very quickly do you think that your kids will come around to really appreciating what you -- I think eighteen I think eighteen yes they're they're -- they're just starting in the workplace themselves to them and I think they do.
That -- up to.
And let's -- all work it through and give -- we'd love to hear you have to say about this you can find us all -- Twitter we can talk more about this provocative topic Lisa thanks I think it's.
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