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So here's a question and -- is you know millions of kids look up to yankees star A-Rod Alex Rodriguez but.
With the recent PED performance enhancing enhancing drug scandal and suspension he's not looking like the best role model.
So how do you tell your kids about the situation in steered.
Then perhaps toward sports icons -- Hit give us a better example if you little -- Katz is here he -- Abramson.
And she is the author of the bonding over beauty and Erica.
-- good to see you get to see so here's the question how do you explain the situation to your kids.
Well I was talking to my son about you -- help you sent my son is on the thirteenth and there's a huge sports fan has all the -- -- everywhere.
And I think to him he really want to be someone like Derek Jeter who is well respected.
Because he works hard.
Or even recently my son got to meet Michael Jordan I think you know what people don't realize is that yes he was talented but he does believe the first on the court.
And the last off the court so it was his hard work that got him where he was so when you see somebody like you -- and you see all of this.
Performance enhancing drugs.
And he's used to that you have to tell your kids look everybody feels like it's hard to.
Do what they need to do and sometimes you're in a competitive environment like sports -- like school.
And you feel like if he could just do that one little thing you could get ahead.
But in the end is that really the person you want to beat you wanna be a champion or -- to basically it's -- time to talk to your kids and they listen at the end of the day they're no shortcuts.
-- election and you can ensure you said it the other day in the news conference teasing you know I don't believe in short carts -- -- shortcut.
I believe and hard work anything that was a complete message to kids.
It's really tough when -- -- somebody that's their hero.
That was such a promising player meaning he's been one of the greatest players and then to see that he was cheating.
And you know I wouldn't jump to conclusions except that he's done it before and we know that.
And so it's a difficult thing but then it's another teachable moment you save your son but he's human just like arrested -- he has a personal life.
And just because he's a professional athlete doesn't mean he's a role model he's a professional athlete -- its job -- he gets paid a lot of money to do it.
And maybe he wasn't feeling so great about himself but look.
Look what happened and would you wanna be that person would -- want to be in the hot seat right now being called a cheater or would you rather be Derek Jeter who's this well respected player that.
Everybody's looked up -- -- for many many years.
And he has just this great way about him and I think.
That's something to really anyway.
Okay but here's your thirteen your Sunday start out by saying that he has all the posters in the memorabilia on his wall he -- -- Iraq.
What did he say to you when you -- billion you have to get a different sports hero.
Well actually I tell them I was gonna talk about Iraq -- you think she said you -- immediately gonna need him I think no I'm not gonna meet him and what difference does it.
Because he's an athlete and he's in really big trouble -- Did the same time you're telling him.
You're you're sort of dismissing a right not to -- for a record break of this discussion.
You're saying yet but he's an athlete so get over yourself but you're saying no we picked Derek Jeter -- Michael Jordan those are the ones you wanna get excited about so what he's.
Don't listen to me he's gonna pick who he wants to -- but I have to try to teach him the best that I can and show him that cheating is not the way to do it.
And try to show him would you wanna be in the position so -- do you say did he say anything like yes mom but I still like him and yes he said.
Well I don't like limited -- be really cool to meet him I said why.
With why -- so cool -- he's -- Yankee.
I think -- but now he's been suspended what do you think that it's -- believe he's been suspended.
And he really takes it to heart and he's more concerned how the Yankees are gonna play.
Then about Iraq so I think for him that concern is his favorite team because what I think -- -- joke about him is that.
You love the Yankees no matter who plays on it basically feel people love their teams -- even if Iran did not they -- next year.
There's going to be somebody outs and that's who he's gonna like in -- forget about it.
But the bottom line I think what you're saying is Kentucky's.
Topics like this in headlines like this to talk to your kids and say guys listen at the end of the day.
Rather you're a star a movie star.
If you -- sports star and you know a political star he will it into the -- people are people and you as a parent you just have to instill the basics of being.
Being good not cheating that's -- -- -- it's doing the right thing.
Even if it means you may not make it to -- finish line before that person -- you think is doing the right thing come to find out that they're not.
Mean is that kind of the take a -- -- just.
Won't -- -- like this are actually great for teaching your kids a lesson because when you see that anyone could fall that any one.
Might be insecure I mean I think it came out of insecurity why would -- take these.
If you're so great you obviously feel that you need something to help you.
So I think sometimes when your child's feeling down or maybe they don't feel so great about themselves say -- you're not the only one.
These people that are stars in baseball -- -- fallible but they're quick they're human and we're all humid and you know we all make mistakes.
And when you see here -- make a mistake in -- way I think it can be comforting to kids.
Because you're saying look.
It's OK not to be perfect but what it's not okay to do is to cheat because you're not perfect it's better to not be perfect everyone understands that.
They know what people even understand.
-- in the game it's not great but -- they don't understand.
Is why he would break the rules because -- -- the only game.
If there are rules if there's no rule that it's not really game it's a free -- -- still I think that there's an institution in based on and it's were stacked in.
And it's our American past time and we all want to -- rules.
And -- kids have to realize you don't you can't steal I don't know what.
I'm the wrong -- -- -- you have to play by the rules and it's not just the rules.
We're playing the game but it's also the rules of not taking steroids and that's the rules -- you can't do it he did it.
And so he's been punished for it and he's gonna -- tremendous amount of money.
Played by the rules that's the take -- to the children from Erica Katz author of bonding over beauty -- to see Erica thanks to see you you very much.
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