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Wild sex abuse is an epidemic in this country take a look at these figures where I wouldn't Obama put him up on the screen view this stunned me I want to read this.
Sexual abuse before the age of 181.
In three girls suffer sexual abuse before the age of eighteen that's a staggering number.
One in five boys -- book is the founder of -- case she was a victim of childhood sexual abuse itself.
For six years at the hands of a nanny she's written this excellent book.
It's okay to tell -- -- that's it we can Watson put it up on the screen for you.
-- -- -- it's your story it's it's -- -- horribly tough story.
Expressible before we getting to what you've done since.
Just remind our viewers of of what you went through when and how you.
He went through absolutely Aaron actually -- sexual abuses.
Obviously very traumatic but not just the sexual abuse that the physical abuse emotional abuse.
He these -- 365.
Days -- -- seven days a week there was no brakes no times -- oftentimes my parents in the next room.
As a means to control meaning me hearing me and defecated on me I was thrown down a flight of stairs.
And really to understand that dynamic it's hard for people.
Noble why didn't tell you what that's the predators are so good you -- pages Williams six years from underwent eleven years old until islands and sixteen and -- And really how predators are able to groom children for abusing group -- for abuse because it's not terrible all the time.
And part of it is they choose children who come from dysfunctional families as I came from the and so it really was a very very difficult time and once I was able to finally -- be used surviving in becoming threading survivor was very difficult he anorexia and mutilated self mutilation and all of those things that go hand in hand with childhood sexual abuse.
But going to -- playing in and painstakingly -- getting their professional help is what all survivors must do and and realize that it is located -- that's really what the -- it.
About right and the title of the book it's okay to tell that seems very straightforward message on the front but.
It's anything but straightforward to tell us absolutely and mean it we get survivors calling us.
-- we had a call last week from in 92 year old woman who had never shared her abuse.
And really just needed help and was reaching out and so we were able to connect her with services and it's really important first for your viewers to know that at any point in time you can call our hotline.
And we can help you receive services and get connected with.
Counselors in your area because -- really only true path to becoming -- survivor.
He's getting professional help and it is so important.
So many other other figures yet you've given us are -- -- stunning to 30%.
Of sexual abuse.
Is never reported so that's pretty much won in three cases 90% of victims know the perpetrators some way.
And 38% of the sexual abuses of -- female which I thought was interesting too but my -- source of 90%.
Victims know the -- in some -- 90% of time children he's specimen they know love and trust and while parents want to believe that that it happens in those neighborhoods over there and those schools aren't.
That different religious organization that you -- -- happening in our homes in our -- -- -- -- mosques -- temples.
If you're not careful as a parent and you're not aware -- It can happen and it will happen and you have to be aware appearance you have to have that opening our communication and -- this -- What's more scary.
In some of the ones that you just shared his children with a developmental delay or the ability 90% of that population will become a victim have a sexual abuse.
-- such as you look at some point in time in their life.
They're 42 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse in this country and growing every day.
I mean every square mile the United States there is -- one pedophile be so we need to be aware -- a -- so lock arms and surround our children protect.
All right simply did bid to.
Aspects of this I'd like to get out for us always.
Your advice to kids who don't through -- kids out there now who happen -- suffering.
What do they do and then we'll get to parents in a moment but -- -- -- what I mean you're an eleven year old.
You're being abused and in one ever horrific fashion.
Can you do listen -- Reach out give us a call call our hotline which is 1877.
-- -- zero line go on our web site.
Send me email I get all your email us and we will reach out -- you.
Get help and that's the most important message that I can share I know it seems scary because I was scared I was in -- I was ashamed.
I didn't want my parents to think that I was dirty -- -- that I wanted this to happen because it went on for so long.
But it's so important that they reach out and get the help that they need -- because.
They can become driving survivors and we don't want them to have to go down a path of anorexia self mutilation and all those.
Terrible terrible things that come -- dean event.
Then so do two things that parents if they suspect.
Abuse on the part of somebody else against one of their children what do they do and how do they react if a child comes to the.
OK if a child discloses this is really important I'm glad that you -- because most important thing that we can do is believe that child.
Believe what that child says now for -- second have a doubt.
I am so glad that you told me thinking so much for sharing that with me that must have been really hard.
Believe the child don't make promises you can't -- don't tell the child we won't tell anybody because we know that that's not the case you know that we're gonna have to share that information.
Don't freak out as parents I know this is a scary thing and something you can't even believe and you want to freak out and you want to be angry at the person who is doing with your child.
But oftentimes those are very conflicting relationships to withhold your feelings and emotions about that defender he and really be there -- to -- for that child and that what that process is going to be.
And what parents need to really look out for for children who are younger -- their unexplained bruises.
If they're suddenly withdrawn if they -- At one point completely potty trained and now are having accident bad wedding.
Some -- in using some of those regressive behavior is an older children.
And explained gifts and money that you did not give your child.
Those are really big signs that something not quite right and you really need to look into it protect their children who have been very good advice and it just before we go tell us about what's -- on the on -- -- absolutely -- -- -- -- -- -- -- curriculum -- -- -- every -- -- -- -- -- -- -- state -- -- -- -- -- that developmental -- curriculum that -- -- -- because -- -- -- 90% -- anybody can go on our website and -- emailing and those are available to them.
And again the website -- -- up on the screen if you Lorenz kids.
Adult all gut check that out there it is on the screen Lorenz kids -- all -- if you wanna know more if you're if your child suffering from abuse.
Go there you can -- all the help he needed care parent who wants to more information.
That's a great resource is well and on that website.
Again and a anybody who needs you couldn't -- -- -- -- every email comes to me and we will make sure that we get the help thinking all right yours is an amazing story and you're doing incredible work now -- book thank you very much Lauren.
Is of course the CEO Lawrence case and the people all of it's okay to tell Lauren great to see have a wonderful weekend thank you so much meaning -- really really useful thank you.