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-- Ted Haggard was a prominent and popular pastor and one of the most influential evangelical leaders in the country.
But their lives took a sudden and steep nosedive -- -- rock bottom when he admitted to having sexual indiscretions with a male prostitute.
But she stuck with him.
And -- her reasons why in her new book why I stayed the choices I made in my darkest hour ladies and gentlemen please welcome Gayle haggard.
Sales for the -- the obvious question the book is called why I stay so.
-- -- -- -- I stayed because first of all my faith teaches need that.
That the way to heal relationships -- -- forgiveness.
And felt I wanted to give my has been the benefit of -- doubt and believe that all these years that we -- together all the wonderful things that.
I've watched him do and the people that I've seen him how.
Was really -- something is -- south pitching and certainly I felt our marriage and family -- -- where it's -- between.
You went through extraordinary pain this was really a shock to you as I understand from the book.
There were many of the details that you didn't know sooner than they were publicly disclosed.
So it was.
Painful to find this out as everybody else it.
That's the truth as the scandal was breaking.
My husband was confessing to me that some of the allegations were true.
And I actually wrote my -- because I knew that there are others who experienced things like this.
Many not on the public stage that certainly that we're going through painful experiences like this from their marriage is -- I wanted to encourage them and give them hope that there various and that their site to the story there is a way to get through and that was my.
It's I think you're probably a lot of women listening they think.
Stay with him -- I'm not sure that I wouldn't keep from shoot it and I mean -- there must have been moments in which you just wanted to hurt him or where those moments.
-- And amassed well now is now like I -- -- you learn as much resign him.
Certainly I think that's a part -- grieving process and and I heard it and I had my amendment where I wanted him to now how bad bouts.
But I also it -- is that he won't carry.
And he was suffering and I felt compassion for what he was going through as well and that helped me in -- -- It's often some of my blows that I may have delivered to him as I -- -- that he was hurting.
Tell me about your kids you have children who are grown and this must have been very painful and humiliating for them as well.
How did you as a family.
Stay together communicate during this period of time when when the scandal first.
Lot I have been amazed at the strength of my children and they and understood -- that all of that fail in life and said -- they -- our family and pulled together -- -- And showed tremendous wisdom and strength I think there are remarkable people and -- have -- and story to tell.
That we found -- we pulled together as a family that we actually strengthened and we -- head.
And his story is that we've provided the way for him to -- -- because we surrounded him with love.
And the strength that we can bring to mind.
Ted was on Oprah Winfrey I think two different times we're gonna show one of the clips when he was first on.
Talking with Oprah about this situation.
You allow yourself then to have the sexual.
Thoughts I did have sexual thoughts about -- yes.
And you allow yourself to have -- -- not compulsive anymore OK and I have temptation sometimes but they're not compulsive.
-- how difficult was it to believe Ted when he said and I'm over this it's behind me.
I'm okay now.
Well I went -- that process with him and in the book I reveal -- our journey in life together and some some signs along the way that that.
Gave me the indication that Ted had circles in this area that I never thought that.
I never understood the gravity of the problem until the crisis hit.
But when I hear him say that I now -- that that was part of his process.
He had to face and south first to file.
And accept the fact that yes I really am dealing with that and then we discovered why he and we dissect discovered tools that really helped him deal with -- And in his process since that time.
That -- that he originally -- has just dissipated and so.
I now that we are all in a process I know these things can reemerge I know that.
That we're human beings and we -- that I'll -- now that my husband has really try it.
To watch this out and do the best he can and that's one of the reasons -- -- -- them.
You have seen a lot of other I would call them for lack of -- -- -- turned celebrity marriages.
Tiger Woods mark and Jenny Sanford governor of South Carolina John and Elizabeth Edwards.
And Jim McGreevey the former governor in New Jersey Eliot Spitzer former governor of New York.
Have any of those folks contacted you maybe who've been something that is through something similar.
Had any contact with people who -- in very high profile positions.
And it had a scandal to just break open and destroy their sense of who they are.
Many of them have contacted me that -- have been aware.
Of of what they are going through it and -- and my heart aches for them my -- -- their stories I've respected.
Some of the choices that they need and I think for all of that -- and and it similar situation.
We have to look at our own unique situation none of business the details of these marriages and unanimous can pass judgment.
-- because we -- have accurate information.
We can only encouraged them to make the best decisions that they can.
I would encourage.
All of them to to forgive -- -- there April -- love is meant to their April.
That I definitely that's going to look like in each of there individual -- -- when we come back I want to talk about what does it take to lob to the point of forgiveness when the hurt is is -- it's wanting to -- Forgive me I forgot your birthday forgive me I forgot to do something for Valentine's.
What you went through -- a little tougher than that and I want you to walk us through -- it takes to forget something as deep.
As what -- experience the book is called why I stayed.
A by the way of all the members of our studio audience will be getting a copy of scales well why I stayed I hope you'll be getting yours as well.
The reaction she got from -- and heads appearance on over earlier this week we'll be right back.
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